tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post4946335180734868306..comments2024-03-19T03:27:24.068-04:00Comments on I SAW YOUR NANNY: Another Nanny NightmareLeigh Raymerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18210572527823459842noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-39457676481483211882010-08-20T20:48:34.994-04:002010-08-20T20:48:34.994-04:00I do not place blame on the nanny for this situati...I do not place blame on the nanny for this situation. She was just trying to be a good nanny..and she did what she did for the love of the children...how can people place blame on such goodness? The blame lies with the family. This family treated the nanny like dirt and this is the person who loves their child! They took advantage of her to the fullest and it saddens me that people would treat the person who cares for their child in such a harsh manner. Shame on the family.<br />I do think the email situation could have been handled in a better manner however. I do not blame the mother for her reaction..it was kinda harsh OP.Dear Abbynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-15729916713560219712010-08-20T16:34:29.512-04:002010-08-20T16:34:29.512-04:00Labeling the Email spam might have been a better c...Labeling the Email spam might have been a better choice than contacting the mother. That way, you could have checked your spam for updates if or when you changed your mind.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-77510375260978198052010-08-20T13:08:33.422-04:002010-08-20T13:08:33.422-04:00I dont know it does sound like she made things wor...I dont know it does sound like she made things worse for herself but it also sounds like she is not an experienced nanny so I do understand where shes coming from. Hopefully she learned from her mistakes. It was a little immature how she handled the email situation she could have just sent them to junk mail without opening them if it really caused that much distress. Better luck next time sorry it didn't work out.bippityboppityboonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-40692623794958388432010-08-20T12:32:05.844-04:002010-08-20T12:32:05.844-04:00"I don't think she's "drowning i..."I don't think she's "drowning in problems she created". Sticking up for yourself as a nanny is such a delicate situation! And so many families take advantage of nannies, in horrendous ways!"<br /><br />Couldn't have said it better myself.Allegranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-84546152141519447782010-08-20T12:30:21.162-04:002010-08-20T12:30:21.162-04:00Bostonnanny makes some great points.
As far as c...Bostonnanny makes some great points. <br /><br />As far as cutting off contact with the parents and kids, I would most certainly tell the mom why you made that choice. It would do you some good to get the practice of growing a little more backbone for next time and MAYBE open her eyes a bit to the mistakes she is making as well.Memenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-8613474243636662642010-08-20T10:24:16.839-04:002010-08-20T10:24:16.839-04:00I think th email situation could have been handled...I think th email situation could have been handled differently. It is quite insulting to the parent of the children to request not to be informed about them, especially since you say you love them. <br /><br />I also have a problem with nannies "treating the child/ren as their own". Of course their is a level of love and attachment that forms when your with a child so long but I think we all need to keep in mind that these are not "our own" children. Many nannies tend to forget that. I myself have fallen into that. At one point felt like I was leaving the child with a babysitter when the parents would take over. I worried about him all weekend because I felt that his first time parents wouldn't care for him like do. I had to take a step back and realize how ridiculous I was acting. He was not my child and altho I love and care for him I will not be with him forever.<br />Back to the point we as nannies should prob see our jobs more like teachers, not as parents, we give guidance, teach and careBostonnannynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-5794669188642015122010-08-20T10:00:28.957-04:002010-08-20T10:00:28.957-04:00apple, I don't think you're being fair. th...apple, I don't think you're being fair. the nanny clearly said she learned from her mistake and perhaps others will learn from what she has shared. what have we learned from your post? that you are unpleasant? that's about it.fail.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-67739747541498418592010-08-20T09:58:24.702-04:002010-08-20T09:58:24.702-04:00I'm not sure it's fair to say these proble...I'm not sure it's fair to say these problems are entirely of her own making. She sounds like a nice person who got taken advantange of, and she's learned from it as well as having drawn the line at a certain point. I think there's a lesson here for parents and nannies alike. I am a parent and someone who does not like to rock the boat in any of my relationships, and it is important for me to see that nannies can be like that too. I think this shows that both parties have to be up front and honest about arrangements, expectations, etc. The parents lost out on a nanny who really cared about their children ... but it sounds like the parents don't have their priorities right (e.g. smoking around baby). Thanks for sharing your experience, OP.CanadianMomnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-63832783664721617592010-08-20T09:42:26.325-04:002010-08-20T09:42:26.325-04:00Parden me for caring about the children I watched....Parden me for caring about the children I watched. And I said the problems were my fault. Thanks for restating the obvious.peanut butternoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-74027900715891705692010-08-19T23:49:31.534-04:002010-08-19T23:49:31.534-04:00Geez, another example of a nanny drowning in probl...Geez, another example of a nanny drowning in problems that are entirely of her own making.applenoreply@blogger.com