tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post4643462795443385022..comments2024-03-19T03:27:24.068-04:00Comments on I SAW YOUR NANNY: Swamped Nanny Needs Prompt ReliefLeigh Raymerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18210572527823459842noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-64410496547870587992012-09-13T15:18:02.917-04:002012-09-13T15:18:02.917-04:00I'm looking into good ergonomic carriers for m...I'm looking into good ergonomic carriers for my own baby. My current charge wasn't really into it, but she still had to be carried all the time when she was small. I would spend almost my whole day walking her up and down the halls and as a result, I got a pinched nerve in my shoulder. I think if I had worn a carrier that distributed her weight evenly, that wouldn't have happened.MissMannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15111173519948500730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-51006927868667244012012-09-13T14:42:27.397-04:002012-09-13T14:42:27.397-04:00Mannah- I love that you are willing to wear babies...Mannah- I love that you are willing to wear babies! I totally get it and think it's very nice for babies. But I was going to comment earlier that I have a permanent back injury after working with infants and tods for 10 years and wearing my own baby. It's a lifetime injury and not something I believe is avoidable if you do this long-term. Something to think about parents and nannies- your back is your life! Also, last time I checked childcare workers had the worst rate of on the job injuries next to construction workers. Definitely very high.<br />EastBayNannynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-1412038525811195682012-09-13T06:48:45.671-04:002012-09-13T06:48:45.671-04:00I don't think the family's in the wrong he...I don't think the family's in the wrong heree (nor you). <br /><br />Things changed. Your contract was negotiated and you are now paid $350 per week extra due to your additional responsibilities. <br /><br />If you are overwhelmed, you could probably ask your boss to hire a cleaner (and deduct that amount from the extra salary you got). They probably wouldn't mind, would they?A Nannynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-13638927393488522812012-09-12T17:41:40.209-04:002012-09-12T17:41:40.209-04:00It is true that babywearing can hurt your back, wh...It is true that babywearing can hurt your back, which is why I wouldn't advise doing it for very long periods of time. But I was under the impression that this is a very young infant, who wouldn't weigh much yet and doesn't yet require floor play time. (I usually start floor play at around 2mo.)MissMannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15111173519948500730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-76114873204659559212012-09-12T14:13:53.555-04:002012-09-12T14:13:53.555-04:00Are u a nanny or a housekeeper? Need to decide tha...Are u a nanny or a housekeeper? Need to decide that first. Babies do need a lot of sleep and they NEED to nap during the day. Try a little of sleep training. She might cry a bit at the beginning but she will learn to soothe herself. The more rested she is, the more she will allow you to separate. I like the comment about baby wearing but you will damage your back. Let her play on her own from time to time on the floor, put some music, etc. Good luck.Nanny NYCnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-50366447953359040892012-09-11T21:48:16.396-04:002012-09-11T21:48:16.396-04:00You're an adult. You decided to take on deep c...You're an adult. You decided to take on deep cleaning & cooking. If you can't handle it, speak up. It really is that simple.keep.it.simplenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-64140058030590951212012-09-11T19:17:20.505-04:002012-09-11T19:17:20.505-04:00it sounds like you've outgrown this job.
That...it sounds like you've outgrown this job.<br /><br />That's ok.<br /><br />If you want to stay without having a breakdown before you start school, I would have a sitdown to renegotiate your contract.<br /><br />But, it sounds like you need to move on to the next job for school.<br /><br />We all love our charges, but that is no reason not to move forward in your life and do what is best for you.<br /><br />They are not your children.OceanBluenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-82043046324510739492012-09-11T19:14:26.813-04:002012-09-11T19:14:26.813-04:00You are not being whiny.
I agree with the others ...You are not being whiny.<br /><br />I agree with the others you need to decide what you want to do BEFORE you speak to your employers.<br /><br />OceanBluenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-30882073994587672712012-09-11T18:57:22.209-04:002012-09-11T18:57:22.209-04:00Get out before you resent or hate your job. Either...Get out before you resent or hate your job. Either that or have the nervous breakdown that's around the corner.You decidednoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-48383559712214406412012-09-11T13:02:57.853-04:002012-09-11T13:02:57.853-04:00How is your financial situation? If you are plann...How is your financial situation? If you are planning to go back for your Masters, can you work part-time?<br /><br />Also, it seems you enjoy homecare situations. Maybe, after you get your degree you will find a job with more tutoring of older children? Or what about being a Governess after. I think they are sought after. Plus, you will be valued as a teacher to the kidsericsmomnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-46500121534620402252012-09-11T13:00:57.322-04:002012-09-11T13:00:57.322-04:00Agree with everything Mannah said.
I will caution...Agree with everything Mannah said.<br /><br />I will caution you that, they will probably not take kindly o you now drawing a line when it comes to the additional duties beyond childcare, for that reason I would prepare to start looking for work if you decide to talk to them.Susannahnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-64613133567912812952012-09-11T11:31:04.646-04:002012-09-11T11:31:04.646-04:00Do you like this family? Do you want to leave or ...Do you like this family? Do you want to leave or just for things to change? You need to make that decision.<br /><br />If you choose to stay, you are way overdue for a sit-down talk with the parents. If your contract says "light housework and cooking" then you need to stick to that. If your making dinners is very important to the family, maybe you can look into some crock pot meals or cooking a whole lot at once and freezing meals. Personally I think you should be in charge of the kids' meals only and let the parents fend for themselves.<br /><br />As for the baby screaming, see if babywearing is a possibility. A lot of babies need that closeness and they are perfectly satisfied being in a front carrier all day long while you go about your business.MissMannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15111173519948500730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-34507817004391482912012-09-11T09:37:46.143-04:002012-09-11T09:37:46.143-04:00Well, you know you can do it all, but how exhausti...Well, you know you can do it all, but how exhausting! I was in a position like this several years ago (except 1 toddler and $900. A week) and loved the family, but resented doing everything! The mom lost her job when she was 5 months pregnant with second child, then I lost my job. She's now staying at home and she gets to do everything, (well she still has me come to clean and sit once a week) and I can see how hard it is for her. She recently commented on how much laundry the family makes and that was before the new baby! Well I'd still love to work full time for them again, except this time around I'd try to pace myself and let some stuff go from time to time. Honestly the time you spend with the children is the most important, ask for a more simple menu and one night a week off with the cooking. Healthy foods should be simple. Please give yourself more breaks to enjoy the children and let MB know there are times you just can't do it all! <br /><br /><br />Can't do it all!noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-19083668924170084512012-09-11T09:15:58.879-04:002012-09-11T09:15:58.879-04:00Agree with working mom. I would also start the jo...Agree with working mom. I would also start the job and apartment search, so that if they decide to let you go or you decide to leave you will have income and a place to stay.<br /><br />Take care of yourself!Katydidnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-23053536193091899612012-09-11T04:20:23.252-04:002012-09-11T04:20:23.252-04:00It's not personal - it's business. You...It's not personal - it's business. You're not whiny - you're overwhelmed. Yes, you have outgrown the position, just as the position has outgrown you. And your goals have changed.<br /><br />Nothing wrong with scheduling a sit-down with these parents to give your notice because you want to go back to school, and at that time give the recommendation that they need a housekeeper or household manager as well as a nanny. If your intention is to stay on as nanny while they hire this additional help, be prepared with a work plan, to outline (influence!) the division of labor & duties, and recommended pay.<br /><br />If your intention is to leave altogether, then have your exit strategy planned and present that.<br /><br />Keep your presentation factual, and unemotional. You want them to hear that the job has become too big for just one person; you DON'T want them to hear that you can't hack their screaming newborn and thus neglecting their toddler! (i.e. perception)<br />workingmomnoreply@blogger.com