tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post3955847175259535116..comments2024-03-19T03:27:24.068-04:00Comments on I SAW YOUR NANNY: Nanny Job From Hell... No, But Really!Leigh Raymerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18210572527823459842noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-37249130792113008082011-03-02T17:16:39.178-05:002011-03-02T17:16:39.178-05:00MissMannah. Been there, done that. I couldn't ...MissMannah. Been there, done that. I couldn't help chuckling as I read what you wrote. The same thing happened to me too!!!!~Just My Two Cents Just Nownoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-89285114080619514142011-03-01T22:28:35.281-05:002011-03-01T22:28:35.281-05:00I understand getting blindsided, especially if you...I understand getting blindsided, especially if you're a newbie-nanny. I had it happen a few years ago. Little chores just kept piling up on me, and MB was more than complimentary when I "helped" her. "Oh sweetheart, you are such a lifesaver! What would I do without you??" Uh, you'd wash your own damn dishes? That job only ended up lasting 2 months.MissMannahnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-322782365784041782011-03-01T05:44:48.835-05:002011-03-01T05:44:48.835-05:00Amen Miss Mannah.
I agree that it should start at ...Amen Miss Mannah.<br />I agree that it should start at the beginning. But sometimes us nannies get blindsided and by the time we realize we are being duped, a lot of time has passed. Perhaps we are just in denial that such a "lovely" family would treat their nanny like dirt. The one person who loves, cares for and cherished their most precious possession all day while they have to work to support them!~Just My Two Cents Just Nownoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-35173727996981615162011-02-28T21:28:17.884-05:002011-02-28T21:28:17.884-05:00"More people need to stand up for themselves ..."More people need to stand up for themselves in these types of jobs."<br /><br />I'll second that, Kloe, and I just want to add that they need to stand up for themselves from the very beginning. Too many times we see people just like the OP who let their bosses walk over them in the beginning until it just gets to be too much and they're miserable. Don't let the parents guilt-trip you into doing them "favors," especially unpaid ones!MissMannahnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-43100044909542582802011-02-28T16:06:03.818-05:002011-02-28T16:06:03.818-05:00What Kloe just said.What Kloe just said.Debranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-88378432439147250192011-02-28T15:49:05.045-05:002011-02-28T15:49:05.045-05:00True words Christine. Especially what you said at ...True words Christine. Especially what you said at the end. If people do not treat their "hired help" like they should, then they will wake up one day and be stranded either with a messy house and/or no childcare. They don't get it because they are selfish. Even when the nanny or maid leaves, they still do not get it completely. They simply hire another one and then treat them the same.<br />More people need to stand up for themselves in these types of jobs. This will enable us domestic workers to gain the respect that we so rightfully deserve!!!Kloe K.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-45201227005680395772011-02-28T08:16:00.456-05:002011-02-28T08:16:00.456-05:00Yes, working in someone's home makes the job &...Yes, working in someone's home makes the job "personal" and people take it badly if you leave suddenly. While I sure wasn't good enough, as per her notes, I was better than nothing when she found out her house was left dirty. Respect is the bottom line... treat people the way you want to be treated and you will have good relationships. Treat people badly, ask more of them and don't pay for it and you are likely to be left without a nanny or housecleaner. Why don't people get this?christinenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-23694147907897274632011-02-28T06:53:37.107-05:002011-02-28T06:53:37.107-05:00Who the hell is using my moniker, please change yo...Who the hell is using my moniker, please change your name!Bostonnannynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-78613472708076955612011-02-28T04:21:11.096-05:002011-02-28T04:21:11.096-05:00Christine: A perfect example of why I believe one ...Christine: A perfect example of why I believe one should depart immediately once you know things are not going to work out. With other jobs such as cashiering, office, etc...if you are unhappy you can give notice and expect to keep working in a normal environment. However when you work in someone's home, caring for someone's family member...people get irate when you give notice. It is a whole different dynamic. <br />I have left many families (close to twenty altogether!!) once I knew things were going South. All the families were angry at me for leaving. They said I was being extremely unprofessional and that I was leaving them "high and dry" w/out anyone to watch their children so they could go to work. But you know what? All they had to do was treat me with the respect that I deserved. Period. It's not rocket science. But instead they chose to use me and treat me like a servant. So it's their own darn fault they are stuck in a bind and can't go to work. Life is tough.Just My Two Cents Just Nownoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-46286991591137516452011-02-27T09:56:00.075-05:002011-02-27T09:56:00.075-05:00I'm not a nanny, I'm an owner of a small b...I'm not a nanny, I'm an owner of a small business and I clean people's homes. Same sort of situation, as I'm in my client's home and I do their "bidding". I had one client who couldn't resist leaving me a note every time I came. Nitpicky kind of stuff- do this do that- even though I clearly did a good job, she felt like she needed to "remind" me of things. It was annoying but I put up with it for awhile- 5 months. Last week, after another very condesending note that I read upon my arrival, I left her a note, explaining that she was obviously not happy and never would be and that we were parting ways. Within an hour or so, she began sending me nasty text messages. MANY text messages and one of them said I should have given notice. Are you kidding me? Get out as soon as you know it's gone south! This girl was a lunatic and I had to threaten to call the police if she continued to send me threatening text messages to make her stop bothering me. You can't cure crazy!!christinenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-17807748443290217552011-02-27T02:21:48.353-05:002011-02-27T02:21:48.353-05:00This was fun to read.This was fun to read.Bostonnannynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-64745824559237586642011-02-26T17:25:25.775-05:002011-02-26T17:25:25.775-05:00Thanks for sharing your story with us OP. It was v...Thanks for sharing your story with us OP. It was very interesting to read and I sympathize with your situation. Unfortunately in the nanny profession, the way this family treated you is very common. Many (not all!!) families think their nannies lives revolve around them all the time. Many of these families are so self absorbed they can't think straight to raise a well-mannered and decent child. I am glad you got out of there and are rid of this crazy family. I think it was very nice of you to give a notice before you left. I strongly advise nannies not to give notice to a family before they leave..I advise them to quit on the spot. Why? Look what this family did to you..they snooped through your stuff. This is what families do when a nanny gives notice..they use the few weeks they still have her to do things that are very unethical. Your family snooped through your stuff...other families do other mean things. <br />Nannies as soon as you find out your family is crazy, RUN do not walk away ASAP.Just My Two Cents Just Nownoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-69794040370292555832011-02-26T16:18:01.776-05:002011-02-26T16:18:01.776-05:00You mentioned that this family resided in Chicago....You mentioned that this family resided in Chicago. I am planning to move there after I graduate, and this type of family makes me nervous about finding work down there. This is exactly the kind of family I will not work for, no matter how attractive the pay and benefits. <br /><br />OP, can you give me an idea of what the nanny market is like in Chicago? Any agencies you would recommend?BearFanMissDeenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-28654791256658305992011-02-26T16:15:08.539-05:002011-02-26T16:15:08.539-05:00I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I was...I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I was a live-in for a family a few years ago that had had 8 nannies in 5 years before me. The one right before me had gotten pregnant and left. It was a very stressful job (the middle kid was a handful and they were Orthodox Jewish) and they finally let me go after two summer months because they wanted someone could could drive the kids to school in the fall (I was working on getting my license) and they gave me NO notice. I was playing with the baby downstairs and the dad told me that they didn't need me anymore and to pack up and leave (it was a Friday) and he couldn't give me a ride home because he had to watch the kids. I have never had another live-in job, and I am very wary of people who have had a lot of nannies in a short time.Nannycarolinenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-52818802211007793452011-02-26T15:24:06.799-05:002011-02-26T15:24:06.799-05:00This rang a bell with me, because it reminded me o...This rang a bell with me, because it reminded me of the nightmare month I lasted working as a live-in nanny for one of the members of a fairly well-known 80's rock band. The fact that their four year old son leaned over the stair railing and spat on my head the evening I moved in should have tipped me off, but I was foolishly optimistic enough to imagine that things would get better from there. No such luck! The schedule we had agreed on ahead of time went straight out of the window...I was expected to pick up their dog's mess from their back yard...the husband left porn magazines lying all over the house...I was expected to take the children out every morning, rain or shine, because mommy and daddy would invariably be hungover from the previous night's partying...and the fact that their kids were easily the worst little hellions I have ever worked with in my LIFE was simply the icing on the cake. In the end, I waited until the family had gone away for the weekend before packing my things and going to stay with a friend until I found a new job - and it was only at this point that the agency who'd placed me in this job confessed that I was the fourth nanny this family had gone through in *five months*!! (which is why I no longer seek employment through agencies, but that's another story) Hope you have found a much better job now!bluebellnoreply@blogger.com