tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post3619348576580055206..comments2024-03-19T03:27:24.068-04:00Comments on I SAW YOUR NANNY: Okay for Nanny to Drink While on the Job?Leigh Raymerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18210572527823459842noreply@blogger.comBlogger59125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-46311084959856022842009-03-16T04:29:00.000-04:002009-03-16T04:29:00.000-04:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-13430096018161680592009-03-11T19:21:00.000-04:002009-03-11T19:21:00.000-04:00The family I used to nanny for encouraged me to dr...The family I used to nanny for encouraged me to drink on the job when they did, which was often. I was like family with them after my 2nd summer I would have a few drinks with them often and even when not "on duty". I would never dream of doing this with a different family unless I was as close with them as I was with the mentioned family.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-53894909405566128422009-03-11T09:56:00.000-04:002009-03-11T09:56:00.000-04:00OK then, Cali. Done. You'd be surprised at what pr...OK then, Cali. Done. You'd be surprised at what prayer can sometimes do. I know I have been...several times. (Which is why I so fully believe it in today!)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-14166735197325541322009-03-08T15:19:00.000-04:002009-03-08T15:19:00.000-04:00Hi Mom. Prayers are never a bad thing, IMO, though...Hi Mom. Prayers are never a bad thing, IMO, though whether they work or not I just don't know.There is no shortage of jobs and p rojects to apply for, at least in my industry, but it's always been a conpetitive fied and nnow it's probably 10 times more so.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-43978966165022978212009-03-08T09:59:00.000-04:002009-03-08T09:59:00.000-04:00OH Calimom, I'm so sorry to hear that! This is wha...OH Calimom, I'm so sorry to hear that! This is what I was just talking about on another thread. Highly educated, well qualified people are either out looking for jobs or living on greatly reduced paychecks. This is the time to be grateful for having a job at all. best of luck to you Cali! (Are you amenable to having prayers sent your way?)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-30724468531605412712009-03-07T23:17:00.000-05:002009-03-07T23:17:00.000-05:00Hi Mom, thanks for thinking about me :) No, nothin...Hi Mom, thanks for thinking about me :) No, nothing has turned up yet. I've sent out about 55+ resumes with one interview just for a project, and didn't get it, and one response that I suspect was a scam, regarding a project on Craigslist. My husband has applied for several really good jobs and a couple of bonehead ones, and just today got the first rejection letter of his whole life which is very discouraging to us both. He's only once ever even had to submit a resume to get a new job! I've also applied for a couple of bonehead jobs, cause at least they offer a health benefit (we had to cancel my husband's plan so he's now uninsured) and I'm hoping we'll qualify for Medi-Cal because we can't affored to pay the coverage for me and my son, though we haven't cancelled it yet, so we're screwed if we don't qualify. I do have a lead on a local printer that may need someone, and I hope to be talking to them next week, and hubby has gotten a few small handyman projects via Craigslist, but that's it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-2016075494647819462009-03-07T22:44:00.000-05:002009-03-07T22:44:00.000-05:00Good for you nanny. Just for the record though, yo...Good for you nanny. Just for the record though, you're not going to drink any more at all while alone with the kiddos, right? 'Cause even three drinks sounds like a lot when watching kids. <BR/>But you sound very mature and like you were very humbled seeing your employer's side of things in print. It shows great maturity that you were able to discuss this rationally with her and that you were not angry at her for writing that.<BR/>She was just concerned for her kids. It might have been best, in retrospect, if she had simply come to you first. But then, she probably didn't want to insult you without getting some feedback from others first (in case we all had thought she was overreacting.) And who could have guessed that you would take it so well?<BR/>Glad it worked out.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-42668343860502389702009-03-07T15:10:00.000-05:002009-03-07T15:10:00.000-05:00Wow. Has this ever happend before that a nanny saw...Wow. Has this ever happend before that a nanny saw her own self being described on the blog and wrote back?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-42975121784210984032009-03-07T10:42:00.000-05:002009-03-07T10:42:00.000-05:00Hello,I would like to offer an update to this situ...Hello,<BR/>I would like to offer an update to this situation. I am the nanny involved. Please withhold your harsh words and judgments. Until I saw this post and the perspective of the situation outside of my own, I didn't realize there was an issue.<BR/><BR/>Let me just correct that the most I have ever had is 3 drinks while still on duty. I do not have a drinking problem.<BR/><BR/>The worst part of the post to me is that it never occurred to me how awful it was to sit down with the children and not eat with them when their parents are out. As I see it in print, this sounds very cold. <BR/><BR/>I believe I take great care of the children and I adore the children. I would never want to negatively affect them. <BR/><BR/>I felt really terrible having come across this post and realizing that I had been doing something, something that in retrospect makes little sense at all, but something that was causing my employer stress. <BR/><BR/>I saw her on Friday morning before work, while the children were still upstairs and said, 'I was online last night and came across a blog about an irresponsible nanny'. She looked shocked and froze. I immediately expressed to her that I was sorry for putting her in that position and the children and I assured her that I understood her perspective and in the future while sitting for the children in the evenning, I would eat with the children and abstain from all alcoholic beverages. I then said, 'you're not worried that I'm an alcoholic or something, are you' and she said she wasn't. <BR/><BR/>To anyone who was concerned, no I am not an alcoholic. <BR/><BR/>And to my employer, I'm smarter than this. I'm sorry.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-17554277035004139192009-03-07T09:18:00.000-05:002009-03-07T09:18:00.000-05:00WHAT? No. While you're working, you should not be...WHAT? No. While you're working, you should not be drinking alcohol at all. When you're working you should be working. Do any of you parents drink while at your jobs? No, so she should not be drinking either. After she's done she can do whatever she wants ( I used to nanny for a family and was very good friends with my employers and on Saturday nights they'd come home from the bar and we'd have a couple of drinks together and talk) But that's after the kids were in bed and I was done. Ask her nicely that you'd prefer her not to do it while at work.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-20420165322082071482009-03-06T08:10:00.000-05:002009-03-06T08:10:00.000-05:00Hi Cali,I've been thinking of you. How is everythi...Hi Cali,<BR/><BR/>I've been thinking of you. How is everything going with your husband's employment situation? I hope a good solution has presented itself for your family.<BR/>This stinkin' economy has affected so many people so badly. It's really starting to get scary.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-60812024444748504882009-03-06T01:03:00.000-05:002009-03-06T01:03:00.000-05:00Wow, agreeing with most posters here that she shou...Wow, agreeing with most posters here that she should NOT drink AT ALL while on the clock. I'd say it would be perfectly reasonable if you, as her employers, simply told her that you would like her to limit any drinking she does to her OFF-DUTY hours. I also would never have more than a tiny amount of alcohol if my husband and I were home with our son before he was in bed, asleep, and hubby was drinking anough to be impaired. Someone has to be sober and responsible, period. This is very bad judgement on the nanny's part.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-89216875824337032582009-03-05T11:02:00.000-05:002009-03-05T11:02:00.000-05:00I've been in situations with my nanny family where...I've been in situations with my nanny family where I'm expected to drink such as a birthday party for a member and we're toasting. I do keep it minimal because I'm not much of a drinker and I tend to get a light buzz immediately from the smallest sip. I agree with the one glass or one beer rule. I would never feel comfortable drinking more than one drink in front of my work family in a sitting, and find it odd that this person has THREE DRINKS in one evening. I think that makes an alcoholic. If you're not there, are you sure that's ALL she's imbibing?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-64018797690371442592009-03-05T10:14:00.000-05:002009-03-05T10:14:00.000-05:00I can't imagine anyone thinks that it is okay for ...I can't imagine anyone thinks that it is okay for a nanny to have 3-4 drinks while on duty. Even someone with a high tolerance would likely be affected enough that their judgment would be impaired and certainly their BAC would be in question were they to need to drive somewhere.<BR/><BR/>I've had multiple employers offer me a drink while I was working, and I always declined. On occasions when I have been offered a drink after hours, either after work or at a social event when I was not working, I sometimes had one drink, never more because I wanted to remain professional at all times even when I was off the clock. A couple of years ago, I was having a discussion with my then-employer about my partner's law firm, and the fact that every Friday at 4pm they have a small party that is catered by a local restaurant. Beer and wine are available in abundance, and sometimes people get drunk, though generally people seem to have just a drink or two and socialize or continue working. My employer expressed some tongue-in-cheek jealousy, but then told me it would be alright if I had one drink while I was on duty. He knew me well and had seen me drink on social occasions, so I'm sure he felt confident I would not abuse this. I thanked him for his confidence, but assured him I would never feel comfortable drinking while on duty, even if it was just one drink.<BR/><BR/>I can see why a live-in nanny (who is in the comfort of her own home and doesn't have to drive home, etc) might be more tempted to imbibe. But I still think ALL drinking should be reserved for off-duty hours. If I employed a nanny, I would make sure our work agreement stipulated that ANY drinking while on duty was grounds for immediate termination. I'd rather be upfront about it and draw a hard line immediately, then have to deal with shades of grey later.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-52918531494894999672009-03-04T21:09:00.000-05:002009-03-04T21:09:00.000-05:00I think drinking on any job is stupid, but ESPECIA...I think drinking on any job is stupid, but ESPECIALLY in childcare. Not a good idea. Not at all.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-88457264490679509542009-03-04T20:39:00.000-05:002009-03-04T20:39:00.000-05:00Lushless, I am on the facebook group and I sent m...Lushless, I am on the facebook group and I sent my info to Jane Doe. I do not have an aim so that won't work, but fb or gmail chat! :) <BR/><BR/>Well, even though there's a disparity of ages maybe we could show up at the same park or go on outings together and at least have some nanny time! haha. <BR/><BR/>Hope to hear from you, I love connecting with people in the area!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-4933769139038267592009-03-04T18:35:00.000-05:002009-03-04T18:35:00.000-05:00I used to be a nanny and still baby-sit a lot. I w...I used to be a nanny and still baby-sit a lot. I would NEVER drink on the job. There is a family I baby-sit for overnight pretty often. Mom made it clear that I could have a beer or 2 after the child was in bed. I just couldn't! I know my limits, but I would never forgive myself if something happened and I was not 100% sober...<BR/><BR/>That being said, I have had a few drinks with them when I was not responsible for their child!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-53394516723880306332009-03-04T18:12:00.000-05:002009-03-04T18:12:00.000-05:00I am a nanny--not live-in--who has, many times, be...I am a nanny--not live-in--who has, many times, been offered a glass of wine by the parents, after they come home and the kids are in bed. I would NEVER put away 3-4 glasses of wine or 3-4 beers while I'm babysitting, especially on an empty stomach. A moderately thin 30 year-old would be certainly buzzed and unable to drive after that many drinks. Totally ok for the bar, NOT okay for babysitting.Why are you so white?https://www.blogger.com/profile/01047582806869176794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-75788959824880806632009-03-04T17:52:00.000-05:002009-03-04T17:52:00.000-05:00Of course. Send me your information and I will pas...Of course. Send me your information and I will pass it on.<BR/><BR/>Have the two of you joined the Nanny Watchers group on Facebook?Jane Doehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16698679708921101708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-41989293729825551702009-03-04T17:45:00.000-05:002009-03-04T17:45:00.000-05:00Wicker park Nanny -I actually watch a 7 year old, ...Wicker park Nanny -<BR/><BR/>I actually watch a 7 year old, so probably not much of a play date! Maybe I could get your aim screen name (if you have one) and we could chat sometime! <BR/><BR/>I don't know how Jane does that, but maybe if you're interested she could pass our info to each other!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-9296857490098523782009-03-04T17:15:00.000-05:002009-03-04T17:15:00.000-05:00I'm thinking alcohol problem too. I am an occasion...I'm thinking alcohol problem too. <BR/>I am an occasional drinker and one glass of wine affects me enough that I don't drink unless I am ready to sit down and relax for the evening. One glass is relaxing. Two has me pretty somewhat silly...and three or four...lets just say I don't do that anymore because at three I start saying things I wish I hadn't and at four the clothes start coming off...no matter where we might be (but that's a whole other topic!!!)<BR/><BR/>If your nanny can handle three or four glasses of wine with no ill effects...which is, give or take, an entire bottle...she's probably an alcoholic. If she's not an alcoholic, she's undoubtedly way too drunk to be in charge of children.<BR/><BR/>What nerve, really, to drink on the job! Even if you told me it was OK, as your nanny my better judgment would tell me it was a BAD idea. It's like saying "OK" if a parent tells you to go ahead and drive the kids around without safety seats. Duh!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-82201902262920594832009-03-04T16:34:00.000-05:002009-03-04T16:34:00.000-05:00As a nanny I find this completely inappropriate! I...As a nanny I find this completely inappropriate! I can't believe any responsible nanny would drink that much while taking care of her charges, and it doesn't matter to me whether the children are asleep or awake! <BR/><BR/>OP: She is being PAID to watch your children and keep them safe! I have never had even one drink while working, even after 8 years of being a nanny and over 10 years of babysitting many late weekend nights! In your situation as you seem to be ok with drinking in moderation, I would condone a glass of wine with dinner and even possibly one later in the evening for a live-in, even though I wouldn't personally feel comfortable doing that while I am working. It's all about setting an appropriate example for your children as well as keeping them safe.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-18722753444998432542009-03-04T14:33:00.000-05:002009-03-04T14:33:00.000-05:00You should know, that since you're actually asking...You should know, that since you're actually asking this question, that drinking on your job, any job, is inappropriate and unprofessional.<BR/><BR/>nannyinmanhattannannyinmanhattanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11434290111916487183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-62090381718267381322009-03-04T14:21:00.000-05:002009-03-04T14:21:00.000-05:00My boss always has a ton of liquor in the cabinets...My boss always has a ton of liquor in the cabinets and the often drink before they leave in the evening. They allow me to drink and I will occasionally drink a wine cooler but never more than one because I'm always too busy with the kids to be drinking besides the fact that I don't like the drunk feeling.<BR/><BR/>If you don't feel comfortable with your nanny drinking then tell her. I don't think you are out of line in the least bit.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-42263077756526985682009-03-04T14:06:00.000-05:002009-03-04T14:06:00.000-05:00personally, I don't think it's OK for a nanny to d...personally, I don't think it's OK for a nanny to drink while she is on the job because she is being paid to work. Parents are a different story.....they should use sound judgement when they drink and are caring for their own kids. There is no law saying you aren't allowed to have a drink or two if you have a child....and if you were a bit tipsy and took your kid into the ER, by cab or ambulance and didn't drive there you aren't going to get in trouble with the law. Sure someone may investigate the circumstances but if that is all it was, they'd have a pretty hard time making a case against you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com