tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post2393481066270337040..comments2024-03-19T03:27:24.068-04:00Comments on I SAW YOUR NANNY: Daytime Progress Lost by Evening TransgressLeigh Raymerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18210572527823459842noreply@blogger.comBlogger80125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-40439228252206347552012-07-18T03:21:36.563-04:002012-07-18T03:21:36.563-04:00What is up with all the rude, petty, hypocritical ...What is up with all the rude, petty, hypocritical bashing on here? She is asking how to be a better nanny. That is a great thing. And I guess so many of you are perfect and make no mistakes and always know what to do and never get frustrated.<<< I was trying to use that humorless sarcasm so many of you are fond of. <br /><br />A child does need consistency and having the parents do one thing while you have another approach can be very difficult and strenuous. I don't think time out for a child that young is beneficial, so I would not take that route since they lack the understanding of what it is. Is this the family's first kid? Because it sounds like it. Parents come home and they want to spend time with their kid and they want them to be happy. I would see them giving the child candy or the cord that was mentioned, as a way to just give him what he wants so he can stop crying and they wont feel bad about anything. It is alright to say no. That is not being abusive or neglecting the child. The parents need to get on board with you and the same discipline should be happening from you and the rents. Let them know that it affects you and your ability to care for him negatively and also hinders the child. You want to make things consistent as I mentioned before so the child will understand in time that his behavior is not the way get attention or things he wants.fed upnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-43084392246097363382012-07-15T20:25:35.662-04:002012-07-15T20:25:35.662-04:00I'm sorry but this is terrible advice. At 12 m...I'm sorry but this is terrible advice. At 12 months he won't have a clue as to why yore forcing him to sit down. <br /><br />Why not actually teach him that when you hit, it makes someone sad. He is only a baby, he will not benefit from a time out. He will not make the connect from hitting to being forced to sit somewhee & ignoring him. He will probably just think its play time. This idea is just awful.timeouts-for-a-baby?noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-32253194244987647412012-07-14T01:20:11.943-04:002012-07-14T01:20:11.943-04:00His parents do it, he is use to get attention when...His parents do it, he is use to get attention when throwing them. So i think ignoring is your best bet. If however, he hits you then you should put him in timeout and don't acknowledge him in timeout an if he gets off before his time, place him back. He might get off many times but you need to be consistent, he will eventually stop getting off the timeout spot.Ariesnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-2263586682257157282012-07-13T18:27:41.062-04:002012-07-13T18:27:41.062-04:00"They deserve a safe home."
Well said."They deserve a safe home."<br /><br />Well said.UmassSlytherinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15647516080217006351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-21590588031150426782012-07-13T17:19:02.832-04:002012-07-13T17:19:02.832-04:00That's just creating a less safe environment &...That's just creating a less safe environment & unneeded danger. You can cover outlets, trim blind cords, lock up poisons & medications, put glass trinkets out of reach & still have a million opportunities to teach a child what is appropriate. It,s inevitable that a child will be left unattended for a few minutes @ a time(caregiver has to use the restroom, fetch mail, cook, fetch supplies, etc,). They deserve a safe home. I usually think you have great advice, but not this time, imo.safe & sanenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-14094965428236075102012-07-13T16:59:41.701-04:002012-07-13T16:59:41.701-04:00You haven't clarified what he gets, when he is...You haven't clarified what he gets, when he is upset? Hugs? Kisses? Attention? A knife? Jack n coke?serious.Questionnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-53517126248194321122012-07-13T10:29:04.734-04:002012-07-13T10:29:04.734-04:00Aaand that's what I get for commenting before ...Aaand that's what I get for commenting before I'm finished reading the whole thread. I just got excited seeing someone from my neck of the woods and had to say something right then. Oh well. :PKellynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-21205079223540448302012-07-13T10:06:15.964-04:002012-07-13T10:06:15.964-04:00OP, if I can be nosy, where in North Carolina are ...OP, if I can be nosy, where in North Carolina are you from? I'm in the Charlotte area so I was just curious! :)Kellynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-8841647359909837022012-07-12T20:24:22.471-04:002012-07-12T20:24:22.471-04:00@ knittynanny and Lyn - great advice!!
@ all the ...@ knittynanny and Lyn - great advice!! <br />@ all the negative bashers telling this poor OP to "get a new career" blah blah blah - wow, didn't ur mothers ever teach u "if you can't say anything nice, then don't say anything at all...."<br /><br />@ OP - You sound like an amazing nanny, if I were your boss, I'd feel lucky to have you! Don't worry about the people debating babyproofing and how strict you should be with the tantrums - one of the nice things about your situation is that all those decisions are the PARENT's to make, whether THEY want it babyproofed, and how they want tantrums handled, all you, the employee, need to worry about is doing your best, and I can tell you are doing great! I totally understand how annoying it is when they say, "do this", but they don't do it :P <br />I agree w the poster that said eventually, hopefully, the kiddo will respect you, regardless of whether they respect mom n dad. <br />Another tactful way to approach the parents is to just ask in the morning, "So, how did he do last night/over the weekend with tantrums, and what methods did you try?" Then, you can sound innocent, and they may feel shamed about not keeping up their end of their own rules! In the end, though, they are the ones who will benefit or suffer the most from their choices. <br />Hang in there! :)Smilenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-50585222723947176102012-07-12T19:57:28.049-04:002012-07-12T19:57:28.049-04:00Ok, KATYDID, lol. You're the one I follow. ;-)...Ok, KATYDID, lol. You're the one I follow. ;-) I have a few favs, you're one of 'em!just curiousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-49721331989709013182012-07-12T19:57:02.121-04:002012-07-12T19:57:02.121-04:00Wow...I am ashamed to see such pettiness on here.....Wow...I am ashamed to see such pettiness on here...and a NANNY website at that.<br /><br />What kind of example are we showing by all this mudslinging online? If I were a parent, all of this child fighting would make me second guess hiring a nanny to watch my precious child.<br /><br />We should all be a team here. We are all in the same boat. Parents should be able to get advice about how to treat their nannies and nannies should be able to get support/advice on any challenges they may face in their jobs.<br /><br />Right?Chinanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-28995790248647525972012-07-12T19:55:09.582-04:002012-07-12T19:55:09.582-04:00I'm sorry. I just love the name Katie & us...I'm sorry. I just love the name Katie & used it (once) bc I looked over & my 26 yo cabbage patchs name is Katie! LOL I promise not to use it. Sorry again. :-)Not.Katie.LOLnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-47455546250638387092012-07-12T19:50:45.941-04:002012-07-12T19:50:45.941-04:00I don't know if there was a Katie before me, b...I don't know if there was a Katie before me, but I've been here as Katie the last few months. The Katie that usually posts about balance , and not being afraid to let kids feel their emotions<br /><br />From now on I'll be katydid if you want to follow my comments. If notkatydidnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-23789955001506777782012-07-12T19:44:48.509-04:002012-07-12T19:44:48.509-04:00Whose the original Katie then? I don't want to...Whose the original Katie then? I don't want to lose following her comments.just curiousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-69016988155935365802012-07-12T19:39:23.375-04:002012-07-12T19:39:23.375-04:00Yes I normally post as Katie and I did Katie K jus...Yes I normally post as Katie and I did Katie K just now because of the pp.<br /><br />Guess I can go by childhood bickname<br /><br />Reminds me of grade school again when I was always 1 of 5 or more Katies.Katydidnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-81600537637060098952012-07-12T19:38:18.571-04:002012-07-12T19:38:18.571-04:00Thank you, Katie. It stings a little when a Reader...Thank you, Katie. It stings a little when a Reader gets upset and wants to leave... every opinion matters to me. I wish there were a way for everyone to be happy but I know that is an impossible task. <br /><br />When I first started posting I admit I was a bit thin-skinned myself but it is true that after awhile, you lose your sensitivity. You have to realize that for the most part everyone here, specifically the OP's, are anonymous, so I would hope they wouldn't let a few nasty comments get to them. There are way too many wonderful people here to make up for the few that might upset you.MaryPoppin'Pillshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01493804863551764605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-32151633224448193372012-07-12T19:19:46.894-04:002012-07-12T19:19:46.894-04:00: D im also Katie!: D im also Katie!knittynannynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-14152792169023672862012-07-12T19:00:04.439-04:002012-07-12T19:00:04.439-04:00I guess you're also a Katie. Ill use another n...I guess you're also a Katie. Ill use another name. :-)work_it_outnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-68715178984380521742012-07-12T18:56:05.612-04:002012-07-12T18:56:05.612-04:00In this particular post, OP was given some great a...In this particular post, OP was given some great advice.<br /><br />Now I don't think it was fair to tell her she was a bad nanny or shouldn't be in child care. That was mean and without cause.<br /><br />But some coursework in child dvelopment specific to infants and toddlers would be helpful to her situation as would a number of ideas suggested in this thread.<br /><br />I take classes in child development from time to time because I believe it's important. Doctors have to keep up on current methods and ideology. Why shouldn't we nannies?<br /><br />Perhaps it would be good to have an option for posters to choose if the want to receive comments or advice in their questions.Katienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-33891257586199335662012-07-12T18:51:16.140-04:002012-07-12T18:51:16.140-04:00I've noticed some responders being rude for no...I've noticed some responders being rude for no reason.<br /><br />But I've also noticed an influx of original posters that seem to be looking for a fight or to stir up drama.Katie K.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-36698751416050485052012-07-12T18:40:46.930-04:002012-07-12T18:40:46.930-04:00It goes both ways. I was truly shocked @ this ques...It goes both ways. I was truly shocked @ this question & gave OP viable options that would help everyone. But she blew up @ me. Whatever. Some posters just can't accept advice maturely. They'll take everything personally & be defensive. I think its an impossible task for you to try to please us all. I do believe that you do a good job of being diplomatic. I don't think I could it as well. ;-)Katienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-17826224695908573282012-07-12T18:36:51.093-04:002012-07-12T18:36:51.093-04:00Yes, this!!
...and no, Lyn. I am not MissMannah ...Yes, this!!<br /><br /> ...and no, Lyn. I am not MissMannah using another moniker to "agree with myself." @@MissJennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-83252817084739395292012-07-12T18:31:29.711-04:002012-07-12T18:31:29.711-04:00Lyn, I think you are mistaken when you said "...Lyn, I think you are mistaken when you said "CLEARLY OP wasn't talking about punishing the toddler or doubting the normalcy of a tantrum in his age group." The reason I think this is because in her first post she listed the behaviors and then said she has no idea where the child picked it up. Any nanny with toddler experience should know that he doesn't have to "pick up" inappropriate behavior anywhere because it is just part of natural toddler development. This is why many of us are encouraging her to do some outside self-education on toddler development. Not only for this situation, but it will help her out in her job immensely.MissMannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15111173519948500730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-76367425032959060862012-07-12T18:26:58.633-04:002012-07-12T18:26:58.633-04:00Thank you, Lyn.
Last week, a Poster wrote in want...Thank you, Lyn.<br /><br />Last week, a Poster wrote in wanting advice but was concerned about bashing, so I left a footnote at the bottom of her Submission. It seemed to help.<br /><br />For those wanting me to do the same for them, just let me know. Then the ones leaving comments know if they get nasty towards the OP, they will get deleted in that particular thread.<br /><br />It is the only way I can think to appease everyone at this point.MaryPoppin'Pillshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01493804863551764605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-65324506864346077322012-07-12T18:24:54.010-04:002012-07-12T18:24:54.010-04:00I said, "what an obnoxious answer." I di...I said, "what an obnoxious answer." I didn't say that YOU or anyone else was obnoxious.okay,got,it,great...noreply@blogger.com