tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post2227251283764137004..comments2024-03-19T03:27:24.068-04:00Comments on I SAW YOUR NANNY: Bringing BabyLeigh Raymerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18210572527823459842noreply@blogger.comBlogger40125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-79177322800686131432012-08-10T22:29:49.486-04:002012-08-10T22:29:49.486-04:00The woman who takes care of my little boy 6 hours ...The woman who takes care of my little boy 6 hours a week always has her son with her. They're best friends now. I don't pay her any less because of it. I'm not looking for my son to get 100% of her attention all the time - I just want him to be safe and happy and have fun. So for me, her little boy being there is a plus, not a minus.EBlacknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-84822722563328018592012-07-03T19:06:02.231-04:002012-07-03T19:06:02.231-04:00That's a myyth that a parent will "priori...That's a myyth that a parent will "prioritize" their own childs needs. I've been a nanny, bringing my daughter as well as ran a home child care for many years. That mythical situation never arose. Had two kids needed something, Id definately cater to the child care kid first, as most mothers do, for obvious reasons. That's natural and what really happens. But that's not a realistic situation anyway.seriouslynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-65430894278720895252012-07-03T09:32:54.790-04:002012-07-03T09:32:54.790-04:00I wouldn't consider a nanny who wanted to brin...I wouldn't consider a nanny who wanted to bring her own child to work.<br /><br />For the same reason I wouldn't consider a home daycare run by a SAHM.<br /><br />In both cases it is human nature for the nanny/SAHM to prioritize her own child's needs. If she doesn't she is a sub-par mother.diet dr. peppernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-72998444859883300042012-06-30T21:21:05.753-04:002012-06-30T21:21:05.753-04:00Yes, I apologize wrong use of words "baggage&...Yes, I apologize wrong use of words "baggage". Honestly, I think if you can find a position that is open to bring your child thats great. Just don't get your hopes up.ericsmomnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-67541014289805134652012-06-30T15:24:19.176-04:002012-06-30T15:24:19.176-04:00I'm currently in this situation. I'm 20 we...I'm currently in this situation. I'm 20 weeks pregnant with my first and will be starting with a new family after 6 weeks maternity leave. (My current family had already planned on putting their daughter in all day K before I got pregnant.) The agency I work with assures me they will do everything they can to find me a position and I will be temping with them between September and birth. Hopefully after my leave as well if I don't have a position by then. My midwife also said she knows of several moms who bring their baby to their nanny position. Maybe in my area, Twin Cities of MN, this is more common?silent aspirationsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-57928347684369322292012-06-30T12:04:08.684-04:002012-06-30T12:04:08.684-04:00I read a lot of childcare ads, and have never seen...I read a lot of childcare ads, and have never seen one saying it was okay to bring along an infant.<br /><br />Usually people say it is okay to bring a toddler or older child so their own child can socialize w/a playmate.<br /><br />I think you should wait until your baby is a little older before you work as a Nanny. Either that, or put him or her into a daycare that specializes in infants.Just My Two Cents Just Nowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09478387825992438947noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-46830393549733713742012-06-30T03:13:25.873-04:002012-06-30T03:13:25.873-04:00I have not, nor would I ever hire a nanny that wan...I have not, nor would I ever hire a nanny that wanted to bring her child.<br /><br /><br />I do wish you the best for your soon to be expanded family and job search.leftcoastmamanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-64544316400357793302012-06-30T01:39:27.065-04:002012-06-30T01:39:27.065-04:00Id personally prefer a nanny who brings a child si...Id personally prefer a nanny who brings a child similar to the age of my child. Id feel like they understand the deep love mother & child share & that they would be more careful bc their child is there, too. That might not make any sense, a lot of reasons why we choose or don't choose nannies don't make sense. <br /><br />However, I wouldn't be comfortable with a newborn. I think mom would be exhausted from night feedings. And a newborn takes ALL of your time. You don't understand it until you're a mom, but when you have a newborn, you're doing something baby related every 3-10 minutes, all day, day after day. The other situation where I wouldn't be okay with it would be if the ages and genders didn't make a good mix. Example, I wouldn want a nanny bringing a twelve year old boy if I have two kids under four. I think her child would be bored. A girl on the other hand might enjoy playing with the babies.BringingBabynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-81437967795248820912012-06-30T00:27:48.232-04:002012-06-30T00:27:48.232-04:00Thank you ericsmom, but I definitely do not consid...Thank you ericsmom, but I definitely do not consider my little girl an "extra baggage", nor do my families. I would rather call her a Bonus for a family open to the idea ;)<br />I do understand that not everyone is comfortable with it, and that is fine.<br />It was indeed hard to find a good position that would fit my child and me, but I do think that everything happens for a reason and after searching for a while I am very happy to have found my current MBs and DBs and their children.COnannynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-22078326533079229302012-06-29T23:03:00.261-04:002012-06-29T23:03:00.261-04:00CONanny
Great story!! Really great you found nic...CONanny<br /><br />Great story!! Really great you found nice families to work for. But lets be realistic those positions are hard to find. Most families are still going to to choose a nanny that doesn't have the extra baggage.ericsmomnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-47479361564009442632012-06-29T18:19:34.627-04:002012-06-29T18:19:34.627-04:00Phoenix, actually that's a false assuption. As...Phoenix, actually that's a false assuption. As a mother, I would cater to the other child at times to show my child that the world doesn't revolve around them. A house fire where one child has to die? And the nanny has to choose? Lol not going to happen. Unless its a Lifetime movie. Serious question, were you born a male? Is that why you'll never be a natural mother?firefirefirefirenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-27617920661240974302012-06-29T15:38:35.930-04:002012-06-29T15:38:35.930-04:00In my concern to raise a kind unselfish child, I w...In my concern to raise a kind unselfish child, I would intentionally not put my child first.Nonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-45720037806338710552012-06-29T13:52:56.293-04:002012-06-29T13:52:56.293-04:00***wow guys, sorry for all the mispelled words. I&...***wow guys, sorry for all the mispelled words. I'm just now waking up and trying to get going***Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15540701992730212772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-67766913802052995722012-06-29T13:37:04.441-04:002012-06-29T13:37:04.441-04:00speakingofweirdo
I am not a biological mother, n...speakingofweirdo <br /><br />I am not a biological mother, nor will i ever be.<br /><br />So lets say there is a house fire. Bith kids are on opposite sides of the house. The mom would automaticaly take her baby out of danget (if she could) then she would go back for the second child. <br /><br />Or lets say the nanny is outside playing with the kids. And she would choose to make her baby happy before mine. A mother would show favoritsm towards, And if the mom didn't put her child first, then something is offPhoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15540701992730212772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-86949343132042620522012-06-29T13:35:17.054-04:002012-06-29T13:35:17.054-04:00I interviewed a few nannies who wanted to bring th...I interviewed a few nannies who wanted to bring their child along and really liked them but most of them wanted to charge close to the same amount as those without kids. I thought of it almost like a nanny share, albeit a bit more convenient for me. With one kid we were paying in the neighborhood of $15-16/hr so I thought 8-10/hr was fair for a nanny who brought her child but most wanted 12-14...which wasn't worth it to me.Zzmomnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-10163293067242411682012-06-29T11:01:13.887-04:002012-06-29T11:01:13.887-04:00I interviewed a few nannies who wanted to bring th...I interviewed a few nannies who wanted to bring their child along and really liked them but most of them wanted to charge close to the same amount as those without kids. I thought of it almost like a nanny share, albeit a bit more convenient for me. With one kid we were paying in the neighborhood of $15-16/hr so I thought 8-10/hr was fair for a nanny who brought her child but most wanted 12-14...which wasn't worth it to me.Zzmomnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-20935681806641047372012-06-29T03:07:32.203-04:002012-06-29T03:07:32.203-04:00I see childcare ads that state a Nanny may bring a...I see childcare ads that state a Nanny may bring along a child w/her to help socialize another child, however it is extremely rare that other families allow a newborn infant to come along. They usually prefer someone w/a toddler who can play along w/another child similar in age.♥ Amy Darling ♥noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-59524172532377317552012-06-29T00:37:55.032-04:002012-06-29T00:37:55.032-04:00I should add that I believe that my families and a...I should add that I believe that my families and are so happy about the situation because my child is the same age or older than all the kids I care for. It may not have been the same if my daughter had been younger (by more than just a few month, I mean). The reason being that a younger child obviously needs more care than a older one. So, if my own child had been younger, I would have had to care for her more than the children whom I hired to care for, which defeat the purpose of hiring a nanny in the first place. <br />For example: I would have not been able to do some activities with my charges because my own child would need a nap.<br />Does that make sense?COnannynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-84145305481847666832012-06-29T00:27:38.339-04:002012-06-29T00:27:38.339-04:00I am a nanny but also the mom of a 3 year-old whom...I am a nanny but also the mom of a 3 year-old whom I bring to work with me.<br />After she was born, I took a 2 month maternity leave, using vacation time, sick days, taking advantage of a short-term disability insurance claim and some unpaid time off. When it was time to go back to work (since money ran out), I cared for two infants (at different times) whom were the same age as my own child. It was not paying as much as my job as a nanny but I was able to stay home with my baby, save on gas and child care (not close family in my area).<br />After a year, I started looking for jobs as a nanny. I started a bit lower than I was hoping but it was still the average rate in my area. I only accepted a job that would allow me to bring my child.<br />Now, my "baby" is three years old and I still bring her to work with me. I work for two families, each loving that I bring her along. Both of my families had no hesitation in hiring me after the initial interview (they each offered me the job the next day after the interview) despite the fact that I bring my child to work. In fact, the first one (with them for two years now) has a child of the same age as mine and now they call each other best friends! The latest one liked the idea of a "big sister" for their infant daughter.<br />I never had a problem bringing her to work with me. I treat each child equally while I am at work. I also do not "cut" my rates because of the situation (I am currently being paid above market rate with both families).<br />I do bring my own daughter's meals and necessities (diapers, wipes....) and each of my families had placed a pack and play in a room for my daughter to nap, when she was younger (my first family had it at all time in their own master bedroom and never removed it until she was big enough to use a big bed!). She is now using a regular bed in a spare room. <br />I love bringing her to work with me and my families love that I bring her to work with me :)COnannynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-29597801857863999312012-06-28T23:35:35.831-04:002012-06-28T23:35:35.831-04:00Good points. Also, thinking what about the newbor...Good points. Also, thinking what about the newborn sleeping arrangements. Can you really expect the employers to keep a crib around for your child? What about a bouncer or swing, highchair. Would the house already be child proof. Would they be willing to let you put up baby gates. Or put socket protectors in their outlets. Those things are a pain in the neck.ericsmomnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-53966944060778384482012-06-28T23:02:17.825-04:002012-06-28T23:02:17.825-04:00I have not had a great experience with a nanny bri...I have not had a great experience with a nanny bringing a newborn. I have worked with a past caregiver to make this work, but found it inevitably led to conflicts no matter how flexible I tried to be. In my case the nanny's baby was a few years younger than my kids so I think that was a big factor. I think it might work if you worked for a family with a baby of similar age. <br /><br />I am very flexible with my prior and current nanny in allowing them to bring their elementary-aged child to work as needed. It isn't always ideal and I do think, no matter how hard a nanny tries, that her child will receive subtle favoritism (as per normal maternal instincts). But I recognize that my nanny is a mom too and would much rather enable her to be a good mother who can be with her child when needed than force separations. The only issue that arises is illness because it is hard to encourage a nanny to bring her sick child to our home if none of us are sick. But I have tried to help there too and use the same safety precautions I would with my child.<br /><br />I would not hire a nanny with a newborn again or try to make that work since my kids are older. But I think you could find a family willing to view it as a nanny share. In that case, I would assume you were paying 1/2 the going rate for a nanny share and I was paying the other half. So I would estimate your salary would be 2/3 normal. GL.nycmomnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-5269564082984787262012-06-28T21:37:15.935-04:002012-06-28T21:37:15.935-04:00I'm really glad this question is here, because...I'm really glad this question is here, because I'm in the same position of trying to get pregnant. Though we are not sure yet if I am going to continue working or stay at home. Those of you who have been there, when did you tell the parents that you were pregnant? Also, did the parents want to know immediately what your plans for childcare were? OP, I would love for you to come back with your insights on how you plan on handling this also.MissMannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15111173519948500730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-59838868454027042122012-06-28T20:21:42.987-04:002012-06-28T20:21:42.987-04:00Phoenix, what paranoia. What situation do you thin...Phoenix, what paranoia. What situation do you think would occur where you have to sacrafice one childs life for another? So you're only going to have one child?speakingofweirdonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-38260012277940079312012-06-28T19:48:55.672-04:002012-06-28T19:48:55.672-04:00I don't know if this has been suggested, but s...I don't know if this has been suggested, but since you have the credentials maybe you could take in 1 or 2 kids in your home.<br /><br />You could probably find a family or two willing to pay a good amount and willing to drop off at your place knowing their child is getting a care by a professional in an environment with better ratios that daycare.<br /><br />You also wouldn't need to pack your baby up every day.Bethanynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-33238278112086017782012-06-28T18:59:54.069-04:002012-06-28T18:59:54.069-04:00maybe you should wait to have a baby for a bit. Yo...maybe you should wait to have a baby for a bit. You may be able to move into a small house or something. <br /><br />don't be a weirdo and have a kid before you are ready. That will not be good for you, hubby, or baby.<br /><br />Sadly, if you were my nanny and you got pregnant. I would probably replace you. you don't know what is going to happen and I wouldn't want someone watching my kid if they have their own. Why? if the situation arose you would save your kid before saving mine. That is maternal instinct. If you have just my baby with you, then you will save my baby.<br /><br />Now, if you worked out of your home and everyone knew you were providing home daycare and they knew you had your own child then they are actively putting their child in your care.<br /><br />The best thing to do would be to work out of the home. or don't have a kid for a while if its going to hurt you financially. Maybe you should save up $20k before you have itPhoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15540701992730212772noreply@blogger.com