tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post1600644802404100826..comments2024-03-19T03:27:24.068-04:00Comments on I SAW YOUR NANNY: You're FiredLeigh Raymerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18210572527823459842noreply@blogger.comBlogger58125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-85349233597909108002008-07-28T10:01:00.000-04:002008-07-28T10:01:00.000-04:00Had to fire our nanny this week. She neglected our...Had to fire our nanny this week. She neglected our 3 month old in favor of our 2-1/2 year old, who she preferred. She stated that a 3 month old was only capable of sleeping, pooping, and eating (not true). <BR/><BR/>She left our baby in the swing so many times, she finally asked why it kept turning off (I told her it was on a 30 minute timer). The last straw was when she left our baby on the floor to sleep while she did crafts in a separte room with our 2-1/2 year old.<BR/><BR/>There were other complaints as well, I worked from home and she would frequently ask if she could leave the baby with me so she could take the 2-1/2 year old to the park, pool, etc.<BR/><BR/>She recently complained that it took me too long to buy more craft supplies. Sheesh, I had lots of things, craft paper, markers, crayons, etc., she just needed to use her imagination.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-56914920769462913022007-10-16T01:12:00.000-04:002007-10-16T01:12:00.000-04:00Nanny Janet:11:36, 3:09 and Nanny lexi, sometimes ...Nanny Janet:<BR/><BR/>11:36, 3:09 and Nanny lexi, sometimes Children can show those types of behavior even after those days, it can depend on the day they are having, or the such. I know so much of a time when my previous family i worked for(who moved away unfortunatly :( wasn't fired but still did get paid the time i was supposed to be there for ) The boy would go and cry to mommy or daddy a lot more so whenever i came because the parents are so busy a lot of the times, due to their jobs(long hours, and so the days that they were together the entire day were mostly the weekends,) and sometimes with my current family when mom or dad are about to leave my charge would cry to them, but after she likes being with me, no crying after that, unless shes really tired or had a bad day. <BR/><BR/>so it all depends on the situation.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-72787992036454487962007-08-30T11:56:00.000-04:002007-08-30T11:56:00.000-04:00I was working from home with three children, ages ...I was working from home with three children, ages 6, 3 and 1. After years of being overwhelmed I broke down and hired a part-time nanny. She was a 19-year-old student, also a part-time fire department volunteer, and she did a good job with the kids in my home throughout the summer and fall. When I found I had nothing to wear to hubby's office Christmas party, I asked her to sit for a couple hours in the early evening. I got home a little sooner than expected and walked in on her removing the two scratched-up babies from the Christmas tree! She claimed she had gone upstairs for a moment to use the bathroom and left them. I pointed out, as she well knew, there is a bathroom downstairs. She left in a hurry. Upstairs I saw the phone lying on the floor along with her shoes, which she had forgotten, and there was a VCR movie playing. Thank God the kids didn't pull the tree over on themselves. I've never used a sitter since who was not a family member or a close mom friend.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-68691757787344717562007-08-13T22:50:00.000-04:002007-08-13T22:50:00.000-04:0012:29: I was 4:45. I was being sarcastic.12:29: I was 4:45. I was being sarcastic.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-32986365808157050602007-08-12T14:50:00.000-04:002007-08-12T14:50:00.000-04:00Thank's for your suggestion rachel, and I don't be...Thank's for your suggestion rachel, and <BR/>I don't believe in long time-outs either. I told the 4 year old, all he needed to do was appologize to me. His time-out could have lasted 5 seconds, it wouldn't matter to me! But, his parents had trained him to know that if he didn't want to do something, he didn't have to, and that included saying, "I'm sorry."<BR/><BR/>To me when a child intentionally hurts someone, I mean he broke the skin, they need to appologize. And, I don't think it is at all unreasonable to let him sit in his room in time-out until he is ready to appologize. He was in his room the entire time-out and was free to play or read books, or do whatever. He just wasn't allowed to come out until he appologized. It wasn't as if I made him sit in a corner or on his bed. I just feel a child should be removed from a situation in which they are not acting properly.Nanny Lexyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13975022122217639952noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-1390789891231282542007-08-12T03:01:00.000-04:002007-08-12T03:01:00.000-04:00A gentle suggestion to nanny lexy: I say this wit...A gentle suggestion to nanny lexy: <BR/><BR/> I say this with kindness since you obviously had a terrible experience and it sounds like you had good intentions. But a 10 minute time-out? Unless the child was 10 years-old (and I can't imagine a 10 year-old acting out in such an infantile manner) the time-out was too long. Time-outs should be a minute per year of child's age.<BR/> Children can't tolerate much more than that and an overly lengthy time-out defeats the purpose. <BR/> It should be short and sweet, kind of like removing a bandaid. Misbehavior/Consequence/Conclusion.<BR/><BR/>But your employer clearly didn't care how long the time-out was. She didn't care about boundaries with her son or with her responsibilities as your boss. <BR/> So good for you: you're free now and I hope your next job is a more pleasant one!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-69203000158799246632007-08-12T02:51:00.000-04:002007-08-12T02:51:00.000-04:00Correction: it's called "PRAYER OF THE NIGHTMARE E...Correction: it's called "PRAYER OF THE NIGHTMARE EMPLOYER".<BR/><BR/>Enjoy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-33056370831444264892007-08-12T02:48:00.000-04:002007-08-12T02:48:00.000-04:002:23AM I feel for you and I'm glad you got away fr...2:23AM I feel for you and I'm glad you got away from that awful situation.<BR/>Suggestion: read "SONG OF A NIGHTMARE EMPLOYER" in the "Skinflint" thread. I promise it will make your day (and make you feel better about what you went through with your "nightmare employer"!).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-23938456794167229892007-08-12T02:23:00.000-04:002007-08-12T02:23:00.000-04:00I was kind of fired last month from my job of over...I was kind of fired last month from my job of over a year. The mom had just had a baby, and I'm sure hormones played a MAJOR role in how she acted! <BR/><BR/>I showed up for work on Saturday, a day I normally don't work, and my then employer informs me she can't afford to pay me my normal rate of $12 an hour, and she will only pay me $10 an hour. After I agreed, she left and told em she would be back in 4-5 hours. 5 1/2 hours go by and she still hadn't returned or called. So, I called her. She said she was about 15-20 minutes away, no explination or appology. She finally showed up after 6 1/2 hours, and fained a "I'm sorry." <BR/><BR/>During those 6 1/2 hours her son proceed to yell at me, and bite me, which were his new ways of acting out. I put him in time out and told him he could come out when he was ready to appologize. He was in there about 10 minutes when his mother came home and let him out of time out to play with him. When I told her and showed her the bite marks she told him to say sorry, and he wouldn't, so she told me, "sorry" for him! I couldn't believe it!<BR/><BR/>I took her aside and told her that I couldn't work for someone who refused to parent her child, and didn't respect me or my time. Her responce? "Well if that's how you feel I don't want you back here!"<BR/><BR/>I was even more shocked. I took my money, and left and haven't looked back! I can't believe what a weight has been lifted off my shoulders!Nanny Lexyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13975022122217639952noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-9471350551409563132007-08-12T01:50:00.000-04:002007-08-12T01:50:00.000-04:00I have had to fire several nannies. Our first one ...I have had to fire several nannies. Our first one treated our 3 month old infant cruely. I still can't forgive myself for leaving our baby in her care. She didn't abuse her. She just neglected her and didn't respond to her cries. I only discovered this by recording her. She was only here about three or four weeks. Our replacement lasted about four months and we parted ways amicably as this was an understood transition job for her. Our next nanny was fired for being lazy and neglectful. I followed her to the park and watched as she kept our 12 month old in a stroller at the park for two hours while she sat and relaxed on park bench and didn't even look at the baby. She then came home and told me about the wonderful time they had 'playing' at the park. As I was looking for her replacement, I discovered that she was also stealing money from me. Since then, I have decided to hire part timers. They don't burn out, get stuck in a routine rut, and if I need to let one go then I have someone that can fill in. I don't even interview anymore. If my two year old doesn't hit it off with them the first day then they don't come back. I have found that she is a much better judge of a good nanny than I am. If they keep her happy and engaged then they are good. I work from home so I never leave anyone alone with her until they have been here for weeks or even months. I have three nannies now that are awesome with her. She really has fun with them and they seem to really have fun with her.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-32234338993139099822007-08-11T00:29:00.000-04:002007-08-11T00:29:00.000-04:004:45 what will hiring "ugly ones" do, if your husb...4:45 what will hiring "ugly ones" do, if your husbands going to cheat he's going to cheat, instead of worrying about getting a nanny get yourselves a therapistAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-57559545179625331562007-08-09T16:45:00.000-04:002007-08-09T16:45:00.000-04:006:24....must be some reason you are so insecure. H...6:24....must be some reason you are so insecure. How many former nannies has your husband slept with? Maybe you shold hire uglier ones! What a joke.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-67633828775912035202007-08-09T02:21:00.000-04:002007-08-09T02:21:00.000-04:00Cali Mom & Single Daddy. Have you guys ever tried ...Cali Mom & Single Daddy. Have you guys ever tried using the Isawyournanny Chatroom? It's so much easier to communicate without the delay :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-75935809347251237692007-08-09T01:56:00.000-04:002007-08-09T01:56:00.000-04:00I quit working for a family who among other issues...I quit working for a family who among other issues they had personally, were just downright crazy. The grandma, who stayed at home all day, would tell me about when she and a girlfriend would disguise themselves and go hide in a dumpster, only to spy on her cheating husband. She would tell me all kinds of stories, as I was passing through the kitchen to wash bottles, or caravaning the baby twin girls downstairs to go outside. She even made a friend of mine who was dropping off lunch for me, set up her Easter table!! It was crazy... but that's not why I left.<BR/><BR/>The mom was just plain wierd. She didn't wear her wedding rings, and always left them in a dish on the table, in plain reach of any curious infant. I moved them once to her nightstand, and told her right away. That was the last I saw of them. One day she told me "You took my wedding rings!", and I absolutely did not. The next morning, after being screamed at and berated, I showed up completely unsure if I even had a job, and she was like "Oh, I found them last night, my mom took them to be cleaned." No apology, nothing. Eventually I started looking for another nanny job via craigslist, and put up a posting saying I was looking. <BR/><BR/>Well I got a response from someone saying "I don't have kids but have always wanted to know why people leave these situations"... I left a polite email back saying "Well, it happens for lots of reaons, but I am looking because I disagree with the style of parenting my employers use, they have paid me late and their checks have bounced, communication is seriously lacking despite my best efforts, and I want to be with a family that can have a co-parenting relationship." Well it turns out it was her all along (shoulda seen that coming). <BR/><BR/>That was on a Sunday night. I worked the whole week, and then Friday came and she was about two hours late, and then "accidentally" left her checkbook at the office. On Monday when I showed up, she said "Oh actually we don't need you today." I asked for my pay from the prior week and she said not to worry she would get it to me. Finally, Friday rolled around and still there was nothing, and she kept "not needing" me because she was sick. When I drove with three friends for support to her house Friday evening to demand my pay, she answered the door and started screaming at me for telling her she was a bad parent, and that she is hurting her children, and what do I know, I am just a stupid nanny who doesn't have kids of her own...<BR/><BR/>Yeah... she had all kinds of issues. I took my paycheck, paid my rent, and never thought of her again.<BR/><BR/><BR/>Although the hardest goodbyes are the nice ones. I had to move out of state to get married, and saying goodbye to the kiddo that I had been watching since he was a tiny infant was heartbreaking. He was a ringbearer in my wedding though, and I am still great friends with his family.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15815542349245090209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-72071238638703879092007-08-09T01:38:00.000-04:002007-08-09T01:38:00.000-04:00Thanks for the vote of confidence, cali mom. I'm ...Thanks for the vote of confidence, cali mom. I'm a widower, and single fatherhood isn't always easy. But even the toughest days are worth it. My kids are always worth it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-41867939704307633852007-08-09T01:30:00.000-04:002007-08-09T01:30:00.000-04:00Daddy, that's great that you're able to make that ...Daddy, that's great that you're able to make that work out so well. Sounds like you're doing a good daddy-job!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-1796078995345600652007-08-09T01:17:00.001-04:002007-08-09T01:17:00.001-04:00And in case you're wondering, I'm not some single ...And in case you're wondering, I'm not some single father who hires nannies so I can lust after them while they watch the kids.<BR/> The only household help I have is a housekeeper (she's a sweet older woman who has worked for me for years and I would never think of her in an unprofessional way). <BR/><BR/>I care for my kids at home full-time and comp-commute from home office while they're asleep.<BR/>But if I ever hired a nanny, I'd treat her with respect. I'd surely give her the benefit of the doubt if she ever displayed inappropriate behavior. It's the decent thing to do.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-27442259430479515652007-08-09T01:17:00.000-04:002007-08-09T01:17:00.000-04:00Single Daddy, I see your point. As disturbing as t...Single Daddy, I see your point. As disturbing as that would have been, I suppose it would be much more fair to discuss it and set a deadline with yourself, at least, to make a decision on whether or not to continue the arrangement. One more reason I don't want to ever have to hire a nanny!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-56658647361558842702007-08-09T01:10:00.000-04:002007-08-09T01:10:00.000-04:00I agree with you, cali mom but what bothers me abo...I agree with you, cali mom but what bothers me about 6:24 is the fact that she didn't even ask the nanny about the incident. She never gave the nanny a chance to explain or apologize. She just fired her without an explanation, and that's just bad form.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-9944572600592250992007-08-09T01:06:00.000-04:002007-08-09T01:06:00.000-04:0012:52AM I have a vocab word for you:I-N-S-E-C-U-R-...12:52AM I have a vocab word for you:<BR/><BR/>I-N-S-E-C-U-R-E.<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>(LMAO at you)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-3190832661674443152007-08-09T01:04:00.000-04:002007-08-09T01:04:00.000-04:006:24, you neurotic freak! How do you KNOW what th...6:24, you neurotic freak! <BR/><BR/> How do you KNOW what the nanny's look really meant? It could have meant she was keeping secrets with your DH and boffing him on the side...OR it could have meant she was: <BR/>1.tired<BR/>2.overworked<BR/>3.irritated<BR/>4.amused<BR/>5.not amused<BR/>6.politely acknowledging DH's humor<BR/>7.totally uninterested in DH's humor<BR/>8.wondering what it would be like to work for a NORMAL employer...<BR/><BR/>I vote for #8.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-72527727788092315972007-08-09T00:59:00.000-04:002007-08-09T00:59:00.000-04:00I understand too. The mom (and boss) should not be...I understand too. The mom (and boss) should not be made to feel insecure in her own home (or office). I'd say the "look" just shows blatent disrespect, which spell trouble, whether it's big trouble YET ot not.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-23464754218290429262007-08-09T00:52:00.000-04:002007-08-09T00:52:00.000-04:00oh pipe down.I understand 624. I once turned quick...oh pipe down.<BR/>I understand 624. I once turned quickly to realize to subordinate employees in my office were sharing a look. That spelled the beginning of the end. I will not be undermined at work, so I understand why 624 would feel so offput by such a look.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-82684941414007017392007-08-09T00:50:00.000-04:002007-08-09T00:50:00.000-04:006:24---WTF?? You fired the nanny because of a "loo...6:24---WTF?? You fired the nanny because of a "look"?? Excuse me? <BR/> You didn't even bother to discuss the "look" with her privately before you fired her? This seems normal to you? This sits well with your conscience? <BR/> Well, nannies are HUMAN BEINGS, not farm animals. It is NOT okay to dismiss them randomly like so much cattle.<BR/>You're heartless and I hope your bad karma follows you forever.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-27281331780112410862007-08-09T00:00:00.000-04:002007-08-09T00:00:00.000-04:00What is your point?People who let their nannies us...What is your point?<BR/>People who let their nannies use their cars have NO SENSE.<BR/>And I have never met a nanny who was busting at the seams to use hers. Until now!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com