tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post1596442201044225113..comments2024-03-19T03:27:24.068-04:00Comments on I SAW YOUR NANNY: Prisoner of BoredomLeigh Raymerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18210572527823459842noreply@blogger.comBlogger45125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-56730205161676459762012-09-29T05:59:41.243-04:002012-09-29T05:59:41.243-04:00I would talk to the parents because being limited ...I would talk to the parents because being limited to where you can go is very taxing on you. I watched kids for a family of 4 over the years. The oldest would go if I said we're going somewhere without complaint but would eagerly stay behind if he could or go somewhere else if possible while the middle two I could and would take all over town by bus and I didn't have a cell phone. MB didn't mind and in fact I was going to take the ys somewhere and asked to borrow her cell phone in case of an emergency but nope she'd rather I take him without anything okay fine. Then you got yd who you'd think I've lost a kid. Going 5 blocks to the store, she'd call to make sure we didn't get lost, going across the street to a townhome where I knew some of the residents she'd call like I'd just let her run off. In all my years of nannying I have never once lost a child closest was a blankie and it turned out the sister hid it. Yeah we need to get out more often and if they're infants the parents might feel they're too young for storytime and think you're up to something else where you might neglect them. I'm not saying you will because no good nanny does that but the parents don't know that. Offer to call/text before you leave and when you return. Take pictures of the kids at the outing and send it to the parents as proof or just as a look at what fun so and so is having. I did that only because she was having fun and photos for my own personal collection.True Blue Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11973677875656657125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-48061267821103673212012-09-23T15:37:00.959-04:002012-09-23T15:37:00.959-04:00Then find a robot nanny. Because real nannies are ...Then find a robot nanny. Because real nannies are real people. We don't get anything out of staring at a baby play for hours on end. We need something to fill the time. Just like all parents do. FYI: you can "actively" care for an infant while knitting AND reading a magazine. I've done with my own children, I can certainly do it when I'm being paid. Not that complicated. And it certainly doesn't take away from meeting the childs needs. knitting magazine reading baby watching gypsynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-34927306122657708652012-09-21T02:06:11.465-04:002012-09-21T02:06:11.465-04:00It is so strange for me to hear that mothers would...It is so strange for me to hear that mothers would not allow you to take baby outside. I have the opposite problem - I want my nanny to take my daughter who is 9 months old for at least short outings outside in the park but she does not want to. She actually said that in all her experience I am the first one to ask for it. She has some skin and general health issues that prevents her from going outside and she is very scared of skin cancer. I have to start supplementing with vitamin d now because she is not getting it from the sun.I wish I had known about my nanny's condition beforehand , I now have to ask my boss to allow me to work more from home so i can be home before noon to take my daughter out so she sees a little bit of sun and spend time outside. I do not know how to deal with this problem I like the nanny, she is very good person. UlchenUlchennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-68012006901275159062012-09-20T16:51:05.592-04:002012-09-20T16:51:05.592-04:00So sorry to hear this OP, i cant imagine how hard ...So sorry to hear this OP, i cant imagine how hard that is to never be able to get out. Some days thats the only thing that saves my sanity. Would your mb be open to having other kids come to their house and you can host a playgroup? utnannynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-12532633419052052002012-09-18T18:31:24.710-04:002012-09-18T18:31:24.710-04:00After reading your responses the best advice I hav...After reading your responses the best advice I have is to make sure to find a new position beforehand! That and make sure they're clear that they will burn through a lot of nannies if they never allow their kids out of the neighborhood, since any good nanny knows that's neglectful to a child's growing mind, especially for learning life skills!<br /><br />I wouldn't partake in a job like that because I don't want to assist someone in messing their kids up for life. I'm here to make your children better, not worse.Ice queennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-69760777737977042142012-09-18T09:29:53.777-04:002012-09-18T09:29:53.777-04:00OP,
Thank you for moderating your own thread, lol...OP,<br /><br />Thank you for moderating your own thread, lol... I have had my hands full the past few days! MaryPoppin'Pillshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01493804863551764605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-17556275254327898532012-09-18T08:56:43.095-04:002012-09-18T08:56:43.095-04:00OP,
Hang in there, especially if you like the job...OP,<br /><br />Hang in there, especially if you like the job otherwise.<br /><br />Nanny jobs are hard to find now.<br /><br />If you can wait a little bit longer and see if you're allowed to break out of jail.<br /><br />I'd ask at least one more time before quitting, and if you decide to quit make sure you have a job lined up first.OceanBluenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-50884477425998646492012-09-18T01:51:52.036-04:002012-09-18T01:51:52.036-04:00Barnes & Noble has a free storytime.Barnes & Noble has a free storytime. Barnes & Noblenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-74290449793891842972012-09-17T17:27:21.395-04:002012-09-17T17:27:21.395-04:00I've been with my current family for about 9 m...I've been with my current family for about 9 months and today was the first time the mb let me take the children for an outing. The first 7 months of employment, mb came home on her lunch break 3 to 4 times a week and was overly controlling in the most passive aggressive ways. How I was finally allowed to get my charges out of the house was by talking to mb's sister who is way more laid back with 2 older children. She had my back and pushed for it and today went great! The day went by so fast and my 3 yr old charge was able to get out all the crazy energy he has! Start hinting! Bring a schedule of story time from the local library, hunt around for childrens shows put on by vendors and point out local playgrounds to your mb/md...whoever is easiest to talk to. Good luck!Nanny4JCnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-49654894896132275682012-09-17T15:26:12.190-04:002012-09-17T15:26:12.190-04:00I completely agree lol I made it a year and a half...I completely agree lol I made it a year and a half too! Social development and interaction is really important for children and adults. At least in a normal job, you get to interact with other adults. Nannying is an alienated profession already so being stuck alone with kids all day Is miserable. Even at a day care teachers have each otherFuture nurse :)noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-14176478597443339342012-09-17T14:13:14.605-04:002012-09-17T14:13:14.605-04:00{ quote Anonymous said...
We have a nanny and did...{ quote Anonymous said... <br />We have a nanny and did not want her taking our daughter on trips or outings in the beginning. As our daughter got older we trusted our nanny more and it was fine. <br /><br />There is a lot of responsibility with taking a child out in the car. <br /><br />If you like the job otherwise just try to deal with it for a while longer and see if they will open up to day outings. <br /><br />I understand it can be boring for you but with all due respect, this is a job. I get bored at my job as well sometimes. I actually was a nanny at one point in my life and I was not able to take the child on day outings. I used that time to clean their house, wash toys, do their laundry. I also would exercise during the babies nap time (obviously that is up to the parents discretion). Maybe take a class outside the home on your own time and see if they are ok with you studying while the children are sleeping quote}<br /><br />*I agree with you that taking children on outings is a huge responsibility.<br /><br />I've done it many times before. I am not a novice or a teenage summer sitter.<br /><br />If it was something I could not handle I would not have asked.<br /><br />As I said before I have asked about places that do not involve a car and been turned down.<br /><br />I know very well it is a job, but I'm sure at your job you have the opportunity to talk to other adults, or leave even if it's just for 15 minutes at lunch to refresh yourself.<br /><br />As a nanny I cannot do those things that your average 9 to 5 er takes for granted.<br /><br />That is a benefit of a walk or playgroup.<br /><br />Playgroups, walks, storytimes etc also benefit children, They need exposure to different environments, and various kinds of stimulation which are severely limited when you are confined to the same space all the time.<br /><br />I also do not believe it is my role as a nanny to do the family's laundry or clean their house beyond cleaning up any messes I make during the day. <br /><br />I do read and the parents are fine with me studying. I would not take a job where the parents wanted to dictate my time dring rest time.<br /><br />The babies on sleep for brief periods so their isn't much time for me to do other personal non nanny things, which is why I feel the occasional outing would be nice for us all.<br /><br /><br />By outing , I do not mean a full day trip. A half hour long music class 15 minutes from their house was my thought or simply being allowed to stroll a little further. <br />I don't think I am being unreasonable.<br /><br />I am willing to comply for now. If I wasn't I would have quit straight away, and not have asked for tips .<br />I will be revisiting the issue later in another month or two.<br /><br />OPnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-78745350409765011572012-09-17T13:32:08.656-04:002012-09-17T13:32:08.656-04:00Nonnie,
This is actually my second set of twins, ...Nonnie,<br /><br />This is actually my second set of twins, and I know it's different but I've cared for as many 3 young children on my own and bit out and about.<br /><br />I have asked about walking a little further, honestly I would be happy with that and i think the babies would love to see a bit more of the world too.<br /><br />I guess I at least have the backyard and the block for now.<br /><br />I won't even have that once winter sets in.<br /><br />I think I am g oing to wait awhile and ask again.OPnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-63563132532093836102012-09-17T12:59:46.202-04:002012-09-17T12:59:46.202-04:00Op, parents of twins seen to have more anxiety of ...Op, parents of twins seen to have more anxiety of letting the nanny take the children out (from what I've seen over the years) they are just learning how to manage taking their children out and find that since it's hard for them to do they also worry it will be hard for the nanny.<br />I know my bosses did worry a little bit that I would have trouble keeping an eye on two and getting them in and out of the car. I had gone shipping with mb and she saw I handled them well and that I was comfortable with it, that's when we sat down and talked.<br /><br />Just curious if this is you're first time with twins or multiple children close in age? If it is then I cab kind of see the parents having an issue.<br /><br />I still don't understand the while not being abler to take them more than a block away especially since they are in a stroller and titty are right there.<br /><br />I would say wait till they are a yr and bring the subject up again with the parents. I hope thing work out and you get to taker them places, it will make for a better nanny and happy children that won't have socialization issues.nonnienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-77868937592942627742012-09-17T12:41:31.347-04:002012-09-17T12:41:31.347-04:00To answer the questions,
I've been with this f...To answer the questions,<br />I've been with this family for 6 months since my charges were 3 months old.<br /><br />I was not told I would not be allowed to bring them out during interview, and I didn't expect to right away given they were so young and I was new, but I did believe at this point I would be allowed to bring them out.<br /><br />Had I known no outings would be allowed I probably would not have taken the job as I am a nanny that likes to be on the go. I was under the impression that all I need do was ask permission.<br /><br />I have asked to bring them out and given specific places I would like to bring them that I would think they would enjoy.<br /><br />I was told that I could not at this time, and was given no time frame for when I could.<br /><br />The parents explained that it was not because of trust or driving, but because of their anxiety.<br /><br />Having a sister with anxiety issues I know there is a real possibility I may not ever get to bring them out if resolving the anxiety issues is a prerequisite.<br /><br />At this point I am not ready to quit. It's not a bad job otherwise.<br /><br />I just do not know how much longer I will be able to take being confined.<br /><br />Thank you to all for your suggestiobns. Hopefully they will help.OPnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-25360501264796467472012-09-17T11:50:09.567-04:002012-09-17T11:50:09.567-04:00I don't agree with quitting if this is the onl...I don't agree with quitting if this is the only issue you are having. I would sit down and talk to mb and see what she has to say. If she says three will be no driving at all ever then I would consider quitting but maybe she's waiting for them to get older or isn't sure how comfortable you are with driving them. That was the case with my current family they weren't sure if I was comfortable going out with infant twins and didn't want to burden me or make the job more difficult, we discussed it and now I'm able to take them outnonnienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-64995220094949696842012-09-17T10:50:46.482-04:002012-09-17T10:50:46.482-04:00Quit!!!! I did and it was WORTH. Now I work for a ...Quit!!!! I did and it was WORTH. Now I work for a family that encourages outings!! Let's me drive. Love it! I too became depressed after a year and a half of working for the type of overprotective paranoid parents you work for. It won't get better!!Quit already!!noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-24792616915058579852012-09-16T18:36:39.829-04:002012-09-16T18:36:39.829-04:00I am in the same boat and have been waiting a long...I am in the same boat and have been waiting a long time to get to take my charge out. Fingers crossed for both of us! Trappednoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-3702686041021447102012-09-16T15:03:39.877-04:002012-09-16T15:03:39.877-04:00This sounds like an issue of anxiety.
I have hear...This sounds like an issue of anxiety.<br /><br />I have heard of parents not wanting nannies to drive the kids places.<br /><br />I have never heard of a nanny being restricted to the block and not allowed to explore the neighborhood with the kids in the buggy.<br /><br />We have always encouraged our nannies to take the kids out and often. I actually felt vadly for the one nanny we hired to care for our premature son who was restricted to the house for a period of time, even with that she was allowed to walk the neighborhood with him.<br /><br />If it is an issue of anxiety, there will be nothing you can do to change your employers' minds, as that is something they will have to overcome on your own.<br /><br />You have to decide if you will be able to handle these restrictions longterm.<br />leftcoastmamanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-46156376963847166122012-09-16T14:17:32.571-04:002012-09-16T14:17:32.571-04:00agreed acean blue - yourself, myself, and anyone e...agreed acean blue - yourself, myself, and anyone else should let this thread be about the original subject - as i commented above - the posters on the accurate subject are very helpful - so let's le it be !RBTChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12236958965651282895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-21791006347754097932012-09-16T14:14:18.722-04:002012-09-16T14:14:18.722-04:00I still think it would be best if you all carry y...I still think it would be best if you all carry your emotional fall out elswhere.<br /><br />If you must make a seperate post.<br /><br />This post has nothing to do with what went on last night and it is not fair to the OP who asked a very good question to have his/her post ruined.<br /><br />Consider their feelings and be the bigger person.<br /><br />That's all I'm going to say about the matter to you.OceanBluenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-49738334901077069682012-09-16T14:10:03.076-04:002012-09-16T14:10:03.076-04:00OP,
You have my sympathy. I know what it's li...OP,<br /><br />You have my sympathy. I know what it's like to be stuck in a house day in and day out with infants, and it doesn't matter how creative you get with the activities for them.<br /><br />Though switching out activities is great to do.<br /><br />I would suggest talking to your MB?DB again a and have a list of great places to bring your charges in your area.<br /><br />I reccommend you select free or low cost activities, to make it difficult for them to object to the expense, and since you are caring for babies you might have to miss a class or two and if it's free they wouldn't be wasting money.<br /><br />When you discuss it with them, I would focus on your charges being ready for a little more stimulation and how importan new experiences and new environments are to the developing brain.<br /><br /><br /><br />I've actually cared for kids that were kept in the home for their first few years and it's scary what isolation can do to a child.<br /><br />I would leave out you being bored even though I totally get it it's likely your mb/db will just see it as you complaining.<br /><br />I would keep it to something simple like one or two trips a week.<br /><br />OceanBluenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-76869055768963339762012-09-16T14:09:53.791-04:002012-09-16T14:09:53.791-04:00ocean blue - if you read this entire thread you wi...ocean blue - if you read this entire thread you will see that 2 posters above - who use generic monikers, we do not know who they are- carried over their negative emotions from the deleted thread<br /><br />EBN and i were responding to them,we are allowed to do that<br /><br />and EBN has an incredible amount of courage - you have to give her that<br /><br />also ocean blue - the deleted thread is still having some emotional fall out - that is not EBN's fault or mine - it will work itself out<br />be patientRBTChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12236958965651282895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-36385977705558515482012-09-16T14:09:46.418-04:002012-09-16T14:09:46.418-04:00Ugh, sorry-- I hate when things double-post!Ugh, sorry-- I hate when things double-post!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-81709308065804062012-09-16T14:02:28.540-04:002012-09-16T14:02:28.540-04:00East Bay & RBTC I think you should stop your ...East Bay & RBTC I think you should stop your conversation and let this post be about what it's supposed to be about.<br /><br /><br />It's wrong on your parts to carry on in here about a now deleted post.OceanBluenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-17265469516915874162012-09-16T13:28:07.431-04:002012-09-16T13:28:07.431-04:00I have been in a similar position, and as the kids...I have been in a similar position, and as the kids got older and I had worked there longer, thing just naturally progressed to the point where I could take them anywhere, without needing to inform/ ask permission from the parents, as long as any hard scheduling issues (appointments, school pick-up, etc) were kept. Hopefully the same will happen for you, OP. <br /><br />As far as what to do in the meantime, LOTS of arts and crafts (age appropriate, of course-- "fingerpaint" with blueberries, footprint pictures, use broccoli as a paintbrush, etc), get a sensory table if possible and switch out toys and materials-- water, rice, jello, etc, rotate toys weekly so they don't seem so stale, make sure to put pinterest to good use (there's tons of great ideas for nannies there!), and my biggest recommendation: get a daycare curriculum and/or book of developmental games and activities-- priceless!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com