tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post1252926712839166391..comments2024-03-19T03:27:24.068-04:00Comments on I SAW YOUR NANNY: And Why Was I Fired?Leigh Raymerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18210572527823459842noreply@blogger.comBlogger74125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-9575900052656617082008-06-06T00:13:00.000-04:002008-06-06T00:13:00.000-04:00My 4 year old son calls me Dad even though I'm his...My 4 year old son calls me Dad even though I'm his Mom. I guess my husband should get rid of me, too. What jerks. I hope you've found something better by now!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-54666809009887228962008-02-02T11:38:00.000-05:002008-02-02T11:38:00.000-05:00I'm really sorry .... but, HUH???I'm really sorry .... but, HUH???Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-57127487567028248522008-02-01T22:53:00.000-05:002008-02-01T22:53:00.000-05:00Im a Nanny and the little girl sometimes call me M...Im a Nanny and the little girl sometimes call me Mom or at her Mom sometimes she call her by my name.. and we dont think that is wrong.. <BR/>I dont understand that Mom she just care by herself and he is being selfish how good is to have someone who take care the kids with so much love and attention !!! <BR/><BR/>Puffff...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-28896927319812362452008-01-31T12:00:00.000-05:002008-01-31T12:00:00.000-05:003:37You need to find another job, sweetie. I know ...3:37<BR/>You need to find another job, sweetie. I know it's easier said than done ... but do you really want to go into work everyday, wondering if it's going to be your last?<BR/>This Mom sounds like she has more than PMS, and you deserve to be treated with more respect!<BR/>Please get out.<BR/>You are probably very stressed out because of her - why do that to yourself? It's not worth it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-65705981133403510782008-01-30T15:37:00.000-05:002008-01-30T15:37:00.000-05:00I got fired because the mother felt that her adopt...I got fired because the mother felt that her adopted baby girl bonded more to me than to her in the short time I was there. Now I am worried because I have been with a family for 3 years and the mom seems to have severe p.m.s. During that time of the month, she puts me down constantly and got VERY angry because I asked for my <BR/>W2 forms, I only asked once! The putdowns are very hard to take but I love the 3 little girls. I am also a single mom supporting 2 sons and rely on the income but I hate being treated like this and fear for my job. I do my best to support the mom and reinforce the fact that I am not the mother constantly.<BR/><BR/>Sorry to hijack, OP.you sound like a very good person who got a bad deal. I have accidentally been called mom, grandma, and even dad by mistake sometimes. You will find more children to love!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-80239667655091058562008-01-26T16:20:00.000-05:002008-01-26T16:20:00.000-05:00Good for you! Perhaps you can come back in the no...Good for you! Perhaps you can come back in the not too distant future to update us about how you are doing. Take care. LorenzaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-60284466769641457852008-01-26T16:14:00.000-05:002008-01-26T16:14:00.000-05:00Op Here!Just wanted to let all of you know I got a...Op Here!<BR/><BR/>Just wanted to let all of you know I got a new job with a wonderful family. I was honest about my last position and they thought the mom was insane! This new person I work for said she would be so happy if her kids called me mom because it would mean she definitely hired the right person. <BR/><BR/>Thanks for all the great advice!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-56968880058960245762008-01-24T22:50:00.000-05:002008-01-24T22:50:00.000-05:0010:35 You're right. Not all biological parents can...10:35 You're right. Not all biological parents can be good. <BR/><BR/>However, I am choosing to hope/believe that this mom's angst results from a deep caring for her daughter and a realization that she can/should be doing more with and for her child. She wants what she saw the nanny having with her daughter. That could be a very good sign.<BR/>Pain and guilt (even though they do not feel good) are actually a good sign at times...evidence of conscience and caring.<BR/><BR/>My suspicion is that a lot of the very worst moms are so far removed from their children and their children's needs and feelings that they are incapable of the feelings the mom from this post displayed. I think that for many of them, as long as they don't have to think about the child much or at all, they are perfectly happy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-90300764183454096202008-01-24T22:35:00.000-05:002008-01-24T22:35:00.000-05:00Mom:"working out a way to raise her daughter in a ...Mom:<BR/>"working out a way to raise her daughter in a way that she can feel good about...........but at least maybe this situation will turn out to be a great change in the course of this child's life."<BR/><BR/>By that I assume you mean the mom staying home. Since the mom puts her own emotional needs before her child's, I don't think the change is going to be an improvement over a loving nanny. Face it, not all biological moms are good at parenting.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-75600513332104716552008-01-24T17:04:00.000-05:002008-01-24T17:04:00.000-05:00such pettiness, peoplesuch pettiness, peopleAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-74302011993448687452008-01-23T10:05:00.000-05:002008-01-23T10:05:00.000-05:00Obviously the mom suffers tremendous guilt about t...Obviously the mom suffers tremendous guilt about the way she is raising her child. Hearing her daughter call you mom was the last straw and she obviously snapped.<BR/><BR/>No, she should never have blamed you ar fired you in the way she did. And you deserved a big severance check and a glowing recommendation. I understand how she felt, but she was selfish to take it out on you in any way. Some people are just not big enough to look beyond how a situation affects them personally sometimes. I feel bad for her daughter, and for you.<BR/><BR/>Now that the damage has been done, let's at least hope that she did something productive with her pain and misguided anger and is actively working out a way to raise her daughter in a way that she can feel good about. I am sorry for you, but at least maybe this situation will turn out to be a great change in the course of this child's life. One can hope anyway.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-52131573252358878072008-01-23T09:52:00.000-05:002008-01-23T09:52:00.000-05:00As a former nanny, I have been called mommy by all...As a former nanny, I have been called mommy by all the charges I have been with by accident at least once in thier care. Even at the daycare I worked at, kids accidentally call thier caregivers mom.<BR/><BR/>This is just the child trying to figure out relationships. They see you all day long, so they assume you deserve the same title as the person they see all night long (or seldom, depending on the case).<BR/><BR/>I would say, continue in the path you are going with correction anytime this error is made. I always addressed it as "guess again silly goose, wrong name."<BR/><BR/>I guess I equate this with the slip ups parents make when they call thier kid the wrong name... you know, "jake, no john, no I mean Sam come here."<BR/><BR/>This mom was just very sensitive about the fact and I am sure she feels guilty about the situation in a way you might not understand. Trust me, if you are a great nanny, she will quickly find that you are not as replaceable as she thought and she will feel awful at such a rash decision.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-9658104726000767292008-01-23T09:09:00.000-05:002008-01-23T09:09:00.000-05:0012:04Excellent post.12:04<BR/>Excellent post.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-165479789439261722008-01-23T00:04:00.000-05:002008-01-23T00:04:00.000-05:00A California nanny here. They are 100% in the wro...A California nanny here. They are 100% in the wrong! I suppose they have the right to their own opinions and can employ whoever they wish, but they sure didn't have the best interests of their child in mind. This is very sad. I've been called "Mommy" a billion times and this has been often times right at the start of a position. Many children are used to saying Mommy mommy mommy and daddy daddy daddy, so this is just habit for the girl.<BR/><BR/>Unfortunately, the Mother in your situation is very jealous and would perhaps do better with her children in a daycare or somewhere more children will be there and there won't be the threat of a Nanny actually doing a good job and connecting with her children.<BR/><BR/>I bet many grade school teachers have accidentally been called Mommy and I bet you didn't see their acutal Mothers going and switching their kid to another class.<BR/><BR/>In your future interviews...TELL THE TRUTH! This is very important, as you will then get a good honest reaction from the new family and see if you might be having the same issue. I work for an amazing family who encourages lots of attention and love and hugs and kisses all from me and there is no reason that every child shouldn't have just one more person in their life that loves and cares for them.<BR/><BR/>You worked for a very selfish mother.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-27726632720208691962008-01-22T23:13:00.000-05:002008-01-22T23:13:00.000-05:00Whahhh?MissdeeYou're adorable, but your posts make...Whahhh?<BR/>Missdee<BR/>You're adorable, but your posts make me dizzy!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-50631433579010994722008-01-22T10:15:00.000-05:002008-01-22T10:15:00.000-05:0011:55-I dissed my daughter's mother to my best fri...11:55-I dissed my daughter's mother to my best friend too, and my ex's mother would diss her granddaughter's mother as well. *LOL* It's OK, sweetie, I forgive you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-8227397839647635302008-01-21T23:55:00.000-05:002008-01-21T23:55:00.000-05:00Missdee, interesting, she sounds VERY familiar!! I...Missdee, interesting, she sounds VERY familiar!! I just diss her with my girlfriends. I never do it to her face that's not my job, it's their father's. I never show my disgust to the children. It's been hard, I know, I am sure you did the best you could given these type's of things are sooo complex. By the way I really shouldn't have been harsh to you. I guess it was just late at night and since I could relate a little of my(pent up maybe) resentment against others rubbed off on you! Sorry again!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-53907533000306805402008-01-21T17:54:00.000-05:002008-01-21T17:54:00.000-05:00My nanny kid does things like this all the time to...My nanny kid does things like this all the time to me..and she is 5! I have been with her for 3 years, and I don't think her parents mind, because what's the alternative? Having a nanny your kids don't respond to? No thanks! Find a new and appreciative family pronto!! You can use other references, such as neighbors in the neighborhood you might have grown close with, or even babysitting references..just nail the interview! Good luck!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-1368545773561251032008-01-21T16:28:00.000-05:002008-01-21T16:28:00.000-05:00I am so sorry this happened to you. This mom sound...I am so sorry this happened to you. This mom sounds heartless, paranoid, and very insecure.<BR/><BR/>I am a public school teacher and almost all of my students have called me mom on accident.<BR/><BR/>I don't correct them, obviously they know they made a boo-boo.<BR/><BR/>In fact, I remember calling my own teachers "mom" before on accident.<BR/><BR/>Again, I am so sorry. :(Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-15096172617702418852008-01-21T12:36:00.000-05:002008-01-21T12:36:00.000-05:0011:08-What I meant to say was that I wasn't going ...11:08-What I meant to say was that I wasn't going to stand for her mother's treatment, how she verbally and emotionally abused her my daughter. So if that makes me "highly judgemental" then it does.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-5301223111086612102008-01-21T12:26:00.000-05:002008-01-21T12:26:00.000-05:0011:08-My daughter's mother was a single mom with 3...11:08-My daughter's mother was a single mom with 3 kids (now 5) by 3 different men, didn't work, collected W-2 (welfare), WIC, rent assistance and other government funding. She wasn't in school and didn't work. All she did was sit home all day and eat. I was with her father for a little over three years, so no, I wasn't young when this happened. Her mother is mean and I didn't stand for it, yet I had enough respect for her mother not to get into fights with her. Hghly judgemental? You mean because I wouldn't take her mother's verbal and emotional abuse? How EXACTLY was I supposed to handle it? I think I handled it the best way I could.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-49283775358285911572008-01-21T11:08:00.000-05:002008-01-21T11:08:00.000-05:00Missdee I am in a VERY similar type of situation a...Missdee I am in a VERY similar type of situation as you were so I understand what you went through<BR/>But I am sorry, that was the most annoying thing I've read all day. We're you young when that happened? Because you sound like you handled it poorly. While you may have given that child better care and more love you should never had downplayed her mother's role in her life. I don't and you shouldn't have. Sorry, also was she a single mother? That can be hard and oftentimes the oldest has to pitch in. Also, a different set of grandparents could have been providing the items for the baby. You seem highly judgemental, so you know, I thought I would tell you about yourself....I do apologize though.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-90865971541954931352008-01-21T10:28:00.000-05:002008-01-21T10:28:00.000-05:004:22-Thanks! Unfortunately, her father and I broke...4:22-Thanks! Unfortunately, her father and I broke up last year, due to his ungratefulness and lack of maturity. I loved my daughter and her father, and when dating someone with a child, it can be hard to accept children in the relationship. This was no problem for me, and her father, who deep down loved me, didn't realize what he had when he had it, so I dumped him last year. I often think about my daughter, and pray that she will not end up running away and in foster care.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-67112151386462569632008-01-21T02:35:00.000-05:002008-01-21T02:35:00.000-05:0011:56Well said.11:56<BR/><BR/>Well said.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-28988198634820180432008-01-20T23:56:00.000-05:002008-01-20T23:56:00.000-05:00If I were blessed with the resources to have a won...If I were blessed with the resources to have a wonderful nanny, etc...I would be FINE with my child calling the nanny "Mommy", "Nanny" "Nana" "Mom" "Mummy" or any other endearment. <BR/> What on earth is wrong with a child feeling so loved by both his/her parents and caregiver? <BR/> Very young children KNOW who their actual parents are, and they often call their nannies, grandmothers or even teachers "Mommy" out of devotion. It's perfectly normal and natural attachment behavior.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com