tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post116938618358887850..comments2024-03-19T03:27:24.068-04:00Comments on I SAW YOUR NANNY: Tropicana and Pecos in Las Vegas, NevadaLeigh Raymerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18210572527823459842noreply@blogger.comBlogger95125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-71808010629502693722007-04-22T00:09:00.000-04:002007-04-22T00:09:00.000-04:00Hello all. I stumbled upon this blog and think tha...Hello all. I stumbled upon this blog and think that I should add my two cents and I hope you will hear me out. <BR/><BR/>There seem to be mainly two sides on this blog. I have perhaps a different viewpoint to add. <BR/><BR/>Like many of you I am married. Unlike you, my husband and I have not yet been blessed to have children. <BR/><BR/>Yes, that's right. I do not have children. Some of you will scoff and say I have no business posting on this blog because there is no way I can know what I'm talking about. <BR/><BR/>Like I said, hear me out. <BR/>I come from a very long line of SAMH's. I hope to also be one someday. As I have not been able to bear children yet, it seems a far off dream. <BR/><BR/>But let me be clear; I have always been very observant. I have seen moms on all circumstances. <BR/><BR/>When my eldest brother was a baby, my mom worked. By the time he was 2 she stopped working forever. I WOULD feel that I would be lucky to always be at home with my future children. I love that my mom was able to be at home. <BR/><BR/>One of my aunts has always worked. She is a wonderful woman. Her first marriage ended because of abuse. Because it was the 80's it was very difficult for women to be paid as much as men, so she struggled to raise three kids and be a working mom. When she remarried she stayed home with their new baby for a while, but then just needed to work outside the home. She doesn't need to; her husband makes enough to support them, but some women just need to have a job elsewhere. She will probably do that until age catches up with her. That doesn't make her a bad person. <BR/><BR/>I know a woman whose husband in paralyzed. They adopted a baby boy because they were not able to have kids. She is a teacher and her husband is Mr. Mom. <BR/><BR/>Women who need to work have just as much right to the joys of children as women who stay at home. Let me remind you, I plan at staying home. <BR/><BR/>Some women, certainly not all, work for the money. Some work because it was their dream to have a career. Some work out of necessity. <BR/><BR/>My husband has a non-curable disease. I don't know how long I will have him around. I have to assume that someday I will have to be Mom and Dad. It might be in 50 years, but it might be next year. <BR/><BR/>I plan to stay at home because I do want to raise my children myself, but I understand the plight of those moms who work for WHATEVER reason. I do not condemn working mothers, nor do I condemn SAHM's. Everyone has a unique circumstance and it is up to them to decide how to live their life. Sometimes it's hard not to judge, but that's why we're here isn't it? To overcome our vices. <BR/><BR/>One more thought. Good for you moms. There are many a woman who choose not to have children. Those who did are doing the best they can. Isn't it an accomplishment just to have been through a pregnancy and the birth? My goodness! If you can survive that I think you can survive anything.Alyssa McVeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10402641907519671449noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-43887803756078766762007-03-21T23:54:00.000-04:002007-03-21T23:54:00.000-04:00I have been a nanny for five years with the same f...I have been a nanny for five years with the same family. I love them very much and I am very close with the entire family. I have also, in that time, earned my Master's in Education. Being a nanny is a job. It is a job that is specialized and should be well respected. In many cases, it allows children to develop a meaningful and positive bond with a person who will help to influence their young lives. It requires patience, understanding, and intelligence, as one must be able to react positively and consistantly, as well as give easily understood (yet as accurate as possible) answers to questions such as "What is a soul?" This entire blog made me so sad. I will not be coming back here.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-1169583130422787452007-01-23T15:12:00.000-05:002007-01-23T15:12:00.000-05:00My former friend didn't have a babysitter, save fo...My former friend didn't have a babysitter, save for when I would pick her kids up and take them to my house, before it dawned on her that I had called CPS.... She put her sons in a wee little room with a baby gate over the door and a TV on, where she'd leave them for hours and hours and hours. She would sit in the next room over smoking and messing around on her computer, always.<BR/><BR/>I'd known this girl since kindergarten, and a year ago she wasn't like this. She kept a tidy house, didn't smoke, and played more with her kids than her computer. She's mentally ill, but refuses to get help or help her babies :(Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-1169582695126152202007-01-23T15:04:00.000-05:002007-01-23T15:04:00.000-05:00I have 3 snobby thoughts every 2 hours but I never...I have 3 snobby thoughts every 2 hours but I never convey them to the people in my life. My children never hear them. I keep harsh judgemnts to myself. I pretend evertything is status quo.<BR/><BR/>(It isn't)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-1169582577143026222007-01-23T15:02:00.000-05:002007-01-23T15:02:00.000-05:00that was pretty ballsy of you.that was pretty ballsy of you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-1169582462640966622007-01-23T15:01:00.000-05:002007-01-23T15:01:00.000-05:00Those weren't an employers home, I thought it was ...Those weren't an employers home, I thought it was clear from the post, the comments on my post, and previous comments I've made here that I work in my own home.<BR/><BR/>Those were pictures of someone that had been a dear friend of mine. She invited us to stay with her when we moved to Las Vegas and were waiting for my house to be ready, but I hadn't BEEN to her house at that point.<BR/><BR/>I won't take the post down. I left my friend's home in disgust and stayed with my grandmother and in a hotel until we got into our home. I had to call CPS as my friend refused to admit or do anything about her problem. She decided to harrass and accuse me for my decision to report her. I leave that post up (which you should note was posted in November) because friends of hers still search for me on the internet to cause me trouble now and then, and they should know the whole story.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-1169579329061492122007-01-23T14:08:00.000-05:002007-01-23T14:08:00.000-05:001:23we know you are the lawyer mom posting about y...1:23<BR/>we know you are the lawyer mom posting about yourself. please.<BR/>and she most likely is a snob. if you have snobby thoughts privately you are still a snob. it doesn't really matter if you say them out loud or on a blog. you are still a snob.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-1169578869026139282007-01-23T14:01:00.000-05:002007-01-23T14:01:00.000-05:00123 honesty can be refreshing yes... but making ...123 honesty can be refreshing yes... but making snide remarks about women flipping burgers and making fun of childrens clothing becuase it is not a brand name is downright rotten and not kind or generous what so ever! How dare she critisize because she feels they are not worthy of her! You are blind if you feel her comments above are kind and generous!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-1169576623840849062007-01-23T13:23:00.000-05:002007-01-23T13:23:00.000-05:00The "courtroom mommy" is likely not a snob. She is...The "courtroom mommy" is likely not a snob. She is probably one of the most generous and gentle people you would ever encounter. And I doubt she would say out loud some of the private thoughts she has shared here today. We are living in a PC world. It is somewhat refreshing to be able to say what you really think.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-1169576468774080482007-01-23T13:21:00.000-05:002007-01-23T13:21:00.000-05:001005 you are fabulous and I agree with you. The co...1005 you are fabulous and I agree with you. The courtroom mommy is a snob!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-1169575125017790902007-01-23T12:58:00.000-05:002007-01-23T12:58:00.000-05:00wow I just looked at those pics myself. and I thou...wow I just looked at those pics myself. and I thought the last people I nannied for were bad!<BR/>how could this woman afford a babysitter at all?<BR/>and was that a bong I saw in the bedroom?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-1169572878665801492007-01-23T12:21:00.000-05:002007-01-23T12:21:00.000-05:00are you the same childcare provider that took pict...are you the same childcare provider that took pictures of your employer's home and children and posted them on the internet for all to see? <BR/>Judging by the condition of that house, how much could she have possibly paid you for childcare?<BR/><BR/>This is the worst thing I have ever seen on the Internet Ever! Take those pictures of the children off the INTERNET NOW!<BR/>http://cerulean-me.livejournal.com/445747.htmlAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-1169572639592127172007-01-23T12:17:00.000-05:002007-01-23T12:17:00.000-05:00yes, you can click on "other" and use your real na...yes, you can click on "other" and use your real name, initials or moniker. You don't have to be anonymous.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-1169572004294104442007-01-23T12:06:00.000-05:002007-01-23T12:06:00.000-05:00So you are saying people shouldn't hide behind ano...<I>So you are saying people shouldn't hide behind anonymous. Is that right, anonymous?</I><BR/><BR/>I post above that, who I am. I am the babysitter that the post is about. I wrote than in bold. Since I don't have a blogger account, posting anon was my only option. Additionally? I didn't slam anyone, now did I?<BR/><BR/>I won't post my name, but I'm certainly not hiding. I blog over at LiveJournal http://cerulean-me.livejournal.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-1169564759582258352007-01-23T10:05:00.000-05:002007-01-23T10:05:00.000-05:00I think people who put down working class families...I think people who put down working class families for shopping at walmart and doing childcare are pathetic.<BR/>I am a preschool teacher and my husband works nights so he watches our baby during the day and I would love to care for a child in my home or another's instead so I could be with my daughter.<BR/>Nannies who bring their kids are indeed lucky but also loving that they care more about their kids than money. <BR/>I doubt the lawyer mom could handle chilcare duties: she would get fired within a week as a nanny or a preschool teacher! I consider her to be unlucky and elitist as well to put down walmart: if a child is warm and clean, does it really matter if his onesies are from nordstroms or walmart?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-1169527880846330812007-01-22T23:51:00.000-05:002007-01-22T23:51:00.000-05:00"matter, slamming people on the internet while hid..."matter, slamming people on the internet while hiding behind the “anonymous” option doesn’t help your case, it just makes you sound like a jerk. "<BR/><BR/>So you are saying people shouldn't hide behind anonymous. Is that right, anonymous?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-1169527811040821442007-01-22T23:50:00.000-05:002007-01-22T23:50:00.000-05:00I don't understand why someone can soil a positive...I don't understand why someone can soil a positive post about a good nanny by ranting against working women. Stop judging! Most people are motivated to do good if not great things for the children in their care. Whether they are the parents, Aunts, Grandparents, Teachers or Nannies. We need to come together!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-1169526516546676142007-01-22T23:28:00.000-05:002007-01-22T23:28:00.000-05:00When we decided to start this blog, we made the de...When we decided to start this blog, we made the decision not to censor the content of the comment section. Our desire was to allow for the free discussion of any blog or topic. While it hasn't exactly evolved as we hoped, we do feel that censoring the comments would be contrary to the theme of free expression that blogging celebrates. <BR/><BR/>If you do not enjoy the comment section of the blog, you may choose not to click on the comment link which brings you to the comment section. <BR/><BR/>If you have suggestions, we welcome your input. Please send us an email at isawyournanny@cooltoad.com<BR/><BR/>Thank you,<BR/>JDJane Doehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16698679708921101708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-1169520345863594052007-01-22T21:45:00.000-05:002007-01-22T21:45:00.000-05:00If your nanny is raising your child, why did you b...If your nanny is raising your child, why did you bother to give birth? You aren't giving your child everything, you are a selfish person who can't be bothered to raise your own baby.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-1169520192026913392007-01-22T21:43:00.000-05:002007-01-22T21:43:00.000-05:00A friend of mine reads this blog religiously, she ...A friend of mine reads this blog religiously, she saw this posting and sent me an e-mail.<BR/><BR/><B>I'm the nanny from the post, or rather, the babysitter. Considering I work in my home, I don't think that makes me a nanny.</B><BR/><BR/>I have been a WOHM, a SAHM, and now a WAHM. <BR/><BR/>Considering that you WOHM *need* your nannies and caregivers, one would think that you would hold them somewhat higher regard. Perhaps you are higher educated than they, with better careers. However these are women that work hard, are denied their 10min breaks ever 2 hours, and don’t get a lunch break but they’re always their to wipe tears from your child’s cheeks and help them to the potty. If you put in a nine hour work day, they work eleven hours to cover your commute, and often times have a commute themselves. Yes, there are bad nannies out there as this blog has proven- but more often than not a nanny is giving from her hearts and soul to care for YOUR kids. At the end of the day, you get the credit for their efforts.<BR/><BR/>SAHMs… because they leave their babies in the care of other people doesn’t make them bad parents. Not everyone can stay home. I’ve loved my time as a stay at home mom, but when my husband’s company laid him off, I had no choice but to go to work. Not every mom is cut out to stay home. It’s better that someone find loving care for their children, and play to their strengths than to make a child feel like they kept their parent from doing what they wanted.<BR/><BR/>No matter what your feelings on the matter, slamming people on the internet while hiding behind the “anonymous” option doesn’t help your case, it just makes you sound like a jerk.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-1169519609862858042007-01-22T21:33:00.000-05:002007-01-22T21:33:00.000-05:00Do you never leave your children ever? Most Friday...Do you never leave your children ever? Most Friday and Saturday nights, my husband and I have plans. We have a weekend nanny that arrives on Friday at 5 and leaves Sunday morning at 8 AM. <BR/>Not that I answer to you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-1169519476778160552007-01-22T21:31:00.000-05:002007-01-22T21:31:00.000-05:00"Why would someone be proud of staying at homeand ..."Why would someone be proud of staying at homeand employing a full time (plus weekend) nanny?"<BR/>Why would someone need to be either proud or embarassed? Perhaps they were just stating a fact of life that from your cornfielf of State Highways 77 just will NEVER grasp!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-1169519401673311742007-01-22T21:30:00.000-05:002007-01-22T21:30:00.000-05:00Where are you a child psychologist? Kansas? In NY ...Where are you a child psychologist? Kansas? In NY and CT, it is common for stay at home mothers to have nannies. YOu may not agree with that choice. But who are you to Judge. Will you attack these mothers as vindictively as you attack those women who continue on with their professional careers after becoming mothers? Most of the Stay at home mothers I know that have nannies are HAPPY. They have help with their children and back up. Their children receive individual attention. The never have to scramble for a sittter or say no to their child. And please don't even suggest we should. We have every right to want to give our children everything!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-1169519217095426362007-01-22T21:26:00.000-05:002007-01-22T21:26:00.000-05:00I'm a SAHM. I was a teacher before I got married. ...<I>I'm a SAHM. I was a teacher before I got married. I have a full time nanny now and a weekend nanny. </I><BR/><BR/>That doesn't even make SENSE! You are a SAHM with two nannies? <BR/><BR/>All in all, it's the working moms here that have me ashamed of mom in general- and I'm working mom with two kids in school, and an after school babysitter!<BR/><BR/>IF you women think so poorly of your nannnies, why do you trust them with your BABIES?!?!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-1169519116207053572007-01-22T21:25:00.000-05:002007-01-22T21:25:00.000-05:00Why would someone be proud of staying at homeand e...Why would someone be proud of staying at homeand employing a full time (plus weekend) nanny? Do you think that this is in the best interest of your child? I'm not yet a mom; I am a Child Psychologist. I'm just trying to understand the reasoning behind this decision.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com